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Well the jist is that a thought is a thought. Thoughts dont always represent true desire. Brains are assosiation machines. So while an intrusive thought MAY represent a true desire, it is also possible that the worry/unpleasantness of the thought means it gets marked important. And causes it to come up. At the end of the day you are not your thoughts, so if you have an instinctual or moral contradiction to a thought you can choose not to align yourself with it. And before you can know what you really think of these thoughts, you need to learn to not be alarmed by them first, so that you can more clearly see if there is a true answer, but the alarm doesnât go away until you accept that there is not necessarily a true answer. But you can still live a full life without that specific answer. I hole this is helpful
I donât understand so why are therapists saying this isnât true then? So are you saying my POCD could be true then and this is true desire. So confused now as my therapist said this isnât true
I think itâs all about accepting uncertainity. Cause saying itâs not true is providing reassurance. We dont know if itâs true or not It freaking terrifying I just read what @omtbtnom wrote and my heart dropped and i was like âwhat if i stop caring about the thought and realize i like it?? Omg omgâ So im still scared its true and that iâll never like men or be attacted to men and have all thise things i dreamed about w/ a guy, cause i donât want that w/ a girl even though im feeling false attractions to girls that send me into an anxiety spiral and make me nauseous and uncomfy, and no attraction to men which makes me so sad:( but thatâs a possibility we have to accept:(
Im sorry for scaring you, I get it. Youâll be okay
@omtbtnom No no! Youâre all good! I was just using an example haha, you perfectly fine:)
So are you saying this can be true why have therapists said this isnât true then
Okay. This HOCD and denial thing is crap. Real denial is someone acting like theyâre not gay when they already know. Real denial is someone reluctance to come out, not a hidden gay version of themselves that theyâve never realized is there and are wrestling with a thought telling them it is. If you have OCD, youâre simply âdenyingâ/rejecting a lie that the ocd is telling you. Real denial is lying about something youâve known is true.
Tw for people who have HOCD. I recently accepted the fact that I really am bisexual and that's okay. ? I love my husband and nothing will change that. I used to think it was HOCD but after the thought of being attracted to women stopped scaring me, the fears went away but the attraction didn't. So it's no longer a cause for distress and is just a part of me that I've accepted and made peace with. ? However, the one downside of this is, because one of my OCD themes ended up being true, I now have thoughts like "What if they're ALL true? What if every other OCD theme including your POCD is true??" Anyone else in a similar situation?
Iâm in a really bad panic at the moment re my ocd. Iâm trying so hard to accept the thoughts/feelings and accept how real and true it all feels, despite the panic and anxiety. I read somewhere that you can clearly tell the difference between a thought about your sexuality being true vs an ocd thought. It said if the thoughts/feelings/narrative makes you feel panic, anxiety and dread, like you donât want the thoughts, then itâs ocd. If they make you feel warm, content and normal, then theyâre likely not ocd. Is that how people and psychologists differentiate? My situation is that Iâm a 36 year old male that never questioned or had to question my sexuality until one day at 26, I had the question pop up âare you gayâ. Since then, itâs like I donât know who I am anymore. Questioning, checking, anxious 24/7, wanting to escape myself. Help :(
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