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Well the jist is that a thought is a thought. Thoughts dont always represent true desire. Brains are assosiation machines. So while an intrusive thought MAY represent a true desire, it is also possible that the worry/unpleasantness of the thought means it gets marked important. And causes it to come up. At the end of the day you are not your thoughts, so if you have an instinctual or moral contradiction to a thought you can choose not to align yourself with it. And before you can know what you really think of these thoughts, you need to learn to not be alarmed by them first, so that you can more clearly see if there is a true answer, but the alarm doesnât go away until you accept that there is not necessarily a true answer. But you can still live a full life without that specific answer. I hole this is helpful
I donât understand so why are therapists saying this isnât true then? So are you saying my POCD could be true then and this is true desire. So confused now as my therapist said this isnât true
I think itâs all about accepting uncertainity. Cause saying itâs not true is providing reassurance. We dont know if itâs true or not It freaking terrifying I just read what @omtbtnom wrote and my heart dropped and i was like âwhat if i stop caring about the thought and realize i like it?? Omg omgâ So im still scared its true and that iâll never like men or be attacted to men and have all thise things i dreamed about w/ a guy, cause i donât want that w/ a girl even though im feeling false attractions to girls that send me into an anxiety spiral and make me nauseous and uncomfy, and no attraction to men which makes me so sad:( but thatâs a possibility we have to accept:(
Im sorry for scaring you, I get it. Youâll be okay
@omtbtnom No no! Youâre all good! I was just using an example haha, you perfectly fine:)
So are you saying this can be true why have therapists said this isnât true then
Okay. This HOCD and denial thing is crap. Real denial is someone acting like theyâre not gay when they already know. Real denial is someone reluctance to come out, not a hidden gay version of themselves that theyâve never realized is there and are wrestling with a thought telling them it is. If you have OCD, youâre simply âdenyingâ/rejecting a lie that the ocd is telling you. Real denial is lying about something youâve known is true.
Tw for people who have HOCD. I recently accepted the fact that I really am bisexual and that's okay. ? I love my husband and nothing will change that. I used to think it was HOCD but after the thought of being attracted to women stopped scaring me, the fears went away but the attraction didn't. So it's no longer a cause for distress and is just a part of me that I've accepted and made peace with. ? However, the one downside of this is, because one of my OCD themes ended up being true, I now have thoughts like "What if they're ALL true? What if every other OCD theme including your POCD is true??" Anyone else in a similar situation?
I'm starting to believe I have had SOOCD since childhood. I remember having thoughts since as early as 7 that felt bad and wrong and made me sad and worried. Thoughts of being bisexual or lesbian still make me so unhappy and uncomfortable, but they also feel so deeply ingrained in me that I have a hard time knowing what my sexuality is. I felt forced to accept the fact that I was bisexual when I was an adult, even though it made me sad, but is that even true? Is dealing with this since childhood really just denial? Am I just gay? Or is ALL of it a lie and I'm straight? Maybe I'm asexual, and am not attracted to anyone? I can't sort it out in my head, my heart is breaking- my wonderful fiance has been so careful and kind as I process what is going on. Now the idea of having sex or attraction to ANYONE of any gender makes me panic and cry. He is so patient, but he doesn't deserve this, he deserves better than my panic attacks and doubt. Has anyone else had a theme since childhood? How have you sorted what IS real from what is NOT real, now that you know you have OCD?
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