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Well the jist is that a thought is a thought. Thoughts dont always represent true desire. Brains are assosiation machines. So while an intrusive thought MAY represent a true desire, it is also possible that the worry/unpleasantness of the thought means it gets marked important. And causes it to come up. At the end of the day you are not your thoughts, so if you have an instinctual or moral contradiction to a thought you can choose not to align yourself with it. And before you can know what you really think of these thoughts, you need to learn to not be alarmed by them first, so that you can more clearly see if there is a true answer, but the alarm doesnāt go away until you accept that there is not necessarily a true answer. But you can still live a full life without that specific answer. I hole this is helpful
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I donāt understand so why are therapists saying this isnāt true then? So are you saying my POCD could be true then and this is true desire. So confused now as my therapist said this isnāt true
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I think itās all about accepting uncertainity. Cause saying itās not true is providing reassurance. We dont know if itās true or not It freaking terrifying I just read what @omtbtnom wrote and my heart dropped and i was like āwhat if i stop caring about the thought and realize i like it?? Omg omgā So im still scared its true and that iāll never like men or be attacted to men and have all thise things i dreamed about w/ a guy, cause i donāt want that w/ a girl even though im feeling false attractions to girls that send me into an anxiety spiral and make me nauseous and uncomfy, and no attraction to men which makes me so sad:( but thatās a possibility we have to accept:(
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Im sorry for scaring you, I get it. Youāll be okay
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@omtbtnom No no! Youāre all good! I was just using an example haha, you perfectly fine:)
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So are you saying this can be true why have therapists said this isnāt true then
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I've suffered with OCD for 50 years with many different themes. SOOCD is my primary theme, and no matter which theme I may be in the middle of it always comes back to SOOCD. I'm back in therapy because after a couple of really good years, I've been in the middle of a flare up. My new therapist with NOCD, recently asked me what my core fear about homosexuallity is. I can't seem to answer that. The only answer that I can come up with, is that it is just egotistic. I'm a heterosexual man who loves my wife and raised three great kids. My question is, have. any ofyou ever been able to answer that question. I would appreciate any thoughts on this question. Thank you and have a great day.
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I wanted to voice that homosexuals can get HOCD too. I remember when i was younger and knew i was gay i still got HOCD one time when watching The Office. I thought Pam was so pretty and then started doubting my whole identity because what if i am straight? Oh god, what a terror if i was heterosexual. But anyway, thought that maybe this would help heteros with HOCD by knowing that this is a universal symptom across OCD sufferers of all sexual orientations. A big problem is calling this subtype āHomosexual OCD,ā because its not. It has nothing to do with being homo or hetero or bi or anything. Its just OCD being a bully. I think labelling subtypes is an issue altogether, as it can unconsciously make people feel like its not just OCD. But it is. Does this make any sense? What are yallās thoughts on this? Or is this just my OCD talking? (Im not seeking reassurance just genuinely find this interesting) TLDR; each time we āqualifyā OCD with a subtype, we reinforce that the subtype is part of the issue. In reality, OCD is just a broken loop in our brains, and thoughts are just thoughts. And Pam Beesly is a hottie.
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trigger warning!!!!!! Iām really scared right now. Iāve been reading Elle Warrenās articles about her experience with HOCD/SO-OCD, and it feels so similar to mine. She went through the same fears of being a lesbian, felt distressed by her attraction to women, and spent hours ruminating, Googling, and analyzing her feelings. She even experienced groinal responses and revisited old memories, just like I do. Eventually, she had a moment of realization in college when she flirted with a girl, and everything clicked. She now identifies as a lesbian. Iām terrified that the same thing will happen to me. I thought the OCD fears were supposed to never be true and that HOCD thoughts are usually just compulsions that donāt end up being real. But reading her story, itās like Iām seeing my own experience mirrored. What if it clicks for me, just like it did for her? What if I realize that I am a lesbian? Elleās story makes me so scared. I thought my feelings of attraction to women were just OCD-driven, and now Iām questioning everything. I thought I was straight, but now, reading her journey, Iām wondering: could my OCD fears actually be real? Elleās experience was very similar to mine: ⢠She got distressed when she thought she might like women, not relieved. ⢠She spent a lot of time ruminating, Googling, analyzing, and comparing. ⢠Her attraction to women only became intense when her OCD flared up. ⢠She said things like, āI feel peace when I believe Iām straight.ā ⢠She had already been diagnosed with OCD and had a history of this pattern. After years of fear and distress, Elle had a moment of calm and realized that it was true. Iām scared that this could happen to me too. Will I have a similar moment of acceptance, where everything clicks and I realize Iām gay? Or will I come to accept that this is all OCD, and that Iām straight, with the possibility that Iām not? I also keep thinking back to when my OCD lessened the first time. Did I go back to men because I wasnāt actually attracted to women, or was it just because the grip of the OCD had loosened? Elle also talked about the shame associated with non-heterosexuality. She mentioned that, like many of us, she had internalized stigma around being gay, and that it made her fear the possibility of being non-heterosexual. I can relate to this so muchāgrowing up, I never saw it as an option to be anything other than straight, and now itās hard to shake that fear and shame. Elle mentioned that she found reassurance in seeing other people with HOCD who worried that their fears would come true, but eventually realized they were just OCD thoughts. That idea is comforting, but also a little scary, because what if that moment of realization happens for me too? What if I finally accept that I am a lesbian? Or, what if Iām just struggling with OCD and eventually realize Iām straight? I just donāt know. The scariest part is that, just like Elle, I feel like I donāt have any obvious signs. She had no idea she was a lesbian until one day, everything clicked. She was 21, just like me when my OCD fears really flared up, and she had a breakthrough moment in Denver when she made friends with lesbians. That hasnāt happened for me yet, and itās terrifying to think that it could happen in the future. I donāt know whatās going to happen, but Iām really scared about where this will lead.
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