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Well the jist is that a thought is a thought. Thoughts dont always represent true desire. Brains are assosiation machines. So while an intrusive thought MAY represent a true desire, it is also possible that the worry/unpleasantness of the thought means it gets marked important. And causes it to come up. At the end of the day you are not your thoughts, so if you have an instinctual or moral contradiction to a thought you can choose not to align yourself with it. And before you can know what you really think of these thoughts, you need to learn to not be alarmed by them first, so that you can more clearly see if there is a true answer, but the alarm doesnāt go away until you accept that there is not necessarily a true answer. But you can still live a full life without that specific answer. I hole this is helpful
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I donāt understand so why are therapists saying this isnāt true then? So are you saying my POCD could be true then and this is true desire. So confused now as my therapist said this isnāt true
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I think itās all about accepting uncertainity. Cause saying itās not true is providing reassurance. We dont know if itās true or not It freaking terrifying I just read what @omtbtnom wrote and my heart dropped and i was like āwhat if i stop caring about the thought and realize i like it?? Omg omgā So im still scared its true and that iāll never like men or be attacted to men and have all thise things i dreamed about w/ a guy, cause i donāt want that w/ a girl even though im feeling false attractions to girls that send me into an anxiety spiral and make me nauseous and uncomfy, and no attraction to men which makes me so sad:( but thatās a possibility we have to accept:(
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Im sorry for scaring you, I get it. Youāll be okay
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@omtbtnom No no! Youāre all good! I was just using an example haha, you perfectly fine:)
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So are you saying this can be true why have therapists said this isnāt true then
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Can hocd create mental feelings or things that resemble inclinations Without a physical response?, but such as arousal and mental attraction, for example, I have so ocd and I'm afraid that I might like women.So, in the last period, when I look at photos of girls, especially beautiful ones, I feel something strange or attracted,sometimes their bodies.And I'm confused as to what that might mean, it's like sexual orientation, is this from me or OCD produced by it?'The feeling is like the feeling of discovering new inclinations and this breaks me, I just want to reconcile with myself in any sexual orientation or identity, but I just can't feel comfortable and reconcile with the fact that I may like women or it may happen in the future.And I have these feelings that telling me messing around the girls would be fun, and I feel something like desire, but I never come to terms with this.. I'm going to be 15 years old, I know, I'm not supposed to think like that, I don't have the right to determine who I am now because im young, and I shouldn't continue to dream of marrying a man..My mind keeps reminding me of the fact that I'm a teenager and the likelihood that everything will change is high, but right now, I'm not asking for anything but rest.I want to love myself and reconcile with her.
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I really need help understanding what Iām going through. For a long time now, Iāve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental āpullā toward certain women ā itās not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I canāt explain ā sometimes I think itās just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: āYou felt something, so you must be gay,ā or āYouāre hiding something.ā I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they donāt feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself ā I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didnāt. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I donāt want to lie to myself or live in denial, but Iām exhausted. It feels like Iām being mentally forced to feel something that isnāt mine. Iām 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I canāt help feeling like Iāve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? Iām so scared that Iāll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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Ok so TRIGGER WARNING if you are not in therapy for SOOCD or are early in therapy for SOOCD please don't read this. Hi, I'm Maddie. I'm 19 and bisexual and diagnosed with OCD (mainly harm OCD and contamination OCD). I am religious and am a nonacting bisexual that happens to be married to a man. Despite this I am still attracted to women. I have also dealt with SOOCD or internalized homophobia, I'm not sure which, where I have second guessed my sexuality over and over and had intrusive thoughts about kissing random people, mostly girls. It took me from 6th grade to 9th grade to finally accept that I am attracted to women as well as men. I would compulsively take sexuality quizzes, avoid thinking about women I found attractive and a lot of things that were definitely compulsive, but I am not sure this was SOOCD or not because I actually am bisexual. At the time however I was thinking I was straight and absolutely terrified of being gay. Now I have accepted myself (conveniently after finding a boyfriend during my questioning) and the compulsions have passed, though some avoidance still occurs. This said, I am wondering if what I experienced was SOOCD or just internalized homophobia from being a Christian? ( Now I believe that being gay is not a sin but acting on it may be, though I don't know for sure. Please don't hate me for that, it's something I only apply to myself not to others. I have no desire to force others not to act on their feelings or beliefs)
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