- Username
- feethebee
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Tonight I sat with my feelings. I remembered a childhood experience that created a fear of absent caregivers. Which now manifest as absent romantic partners. I am currently not doing any kinds of reassurance. Just sitting with the discomfort of being by myself. Lol, I'm doing this activity which makes me feel.connected to people. I will stop now and just sit with my feelings. Good luck to you both just sitting with the root feeling behind these ideas.
this is what truly haunts me. i know i don’t ever want to hurt any child and these are just obsessive intrusive thoughts that cause uncomfortableness, but of course my brain says the same thing “what if you’re just in denial!!!” and all these scary questions and it makes me feel so horrible inside. it does the same thing with my other themes too. that line scares me, it hunts me. it doesn’t cause me any joy having these intrusive thoughts, they make me scared, so that makes me feel like yes, this is definitely ocd. but then that question of “but what if you just have good morals” comes up and i get anxiety. it’s never ending rumination and torture...
I hear you hope. I've used the word torture to describe my intrusive thoughts as well. I msged my therapist last night just to check with her that I'm doing the treatment right because I felt the urge to replace the intrusive thoughts with another behaviour to reduce the discomfort I was feeling when I was just sitting with the feeling. I recognised it and I continued to sit with the discomfort. It took a very long time for me to get to sleep. I'm very fortunate ATM that for another reason I'm home off work so I didn't have to worry about not sleeping. It feels like the therapy is working for me. Yes my body is kinda screemimg at me atm. My ears are ringing, my heart rate is up, I'm shallow breathing. I'm getting dehydrated. All string signs of distress. The treatment is to allow the distress. Allow it. The solution to not needing that intrusive thinking is to allow the underlying feeling and all the physical sensations that come with it. I have hope. I have belief that by doing this, by allowing the distress I am reprogramming my brain to me more peaceful. It doesn't need the reassurance. It can handle it. And when nothing goes wrong it will learn to relax and not fear the thing I've been affraid of since I was 8 years old. This feels empowering. Give it a try. Good luck. I wish you all the health you deserve.
@Kylena wow thank you for this! you’re truly insightful and i totally agree. not responding to the thoughts and just letting them flow, even if they’re horrible and scream for your attention, it’s more beneficial in the long run than replacing the thought or ruminating and doing compulsions. :) i wish you peace from this disorder, a happier future with no more stress. i also have those symptoms you described as well do to OCD, it’s so hard, i feel your pain. we got this though, we can only get stronger from here. :)
@hope Oh I'm so happy to read this that I've helped you. Blessings for both of us! ❤️🤗
Me too. I said something the other day rather uncharacteristic of me and I felt awful about it and still do but my brain is making me feel irredeemable and a bad person. The line is ultra thin
Pocd is really eating at me right now. I’m getting more and more convinced that I’m actually a pedophile. I’m not even sure if I’m having intrusive thoughts or if I’m suppressing fantasies. There’s a lot of moral debates going on in my mind and it’s convincing me that I also like bestiality, incest, etc.
(tw: pocd) i read on an ocd support blog that it's possible for people to become pedophiles after having pocd if the map community gets hold of them, and it's been a really big trigger for my ocd. not looking for reassurance, just to vent :/
(tw: pocd) ive spent the whole morning obsessing about accidentally becoming okay with the content of my intrusions that now ive stopped feeling anything when i think about my obsession. it's like. i know pedophilia is wrong. there's literally no reason it's not wrong. i also know know that im not a pedophile (i can't explain how...i just feel certain.) but now ive like,, accidentally condoned the content of my intrusive thoughts? like some part of my head has gone all philosophical and is going "yeah you aren't attracted to kids, but you used to masturbate when you were a child, and studies prove that everyone has, so why is the idea of kids being sexual bad?" (but obviously it is!! i know that!!!) is that also an intrusive thought? it's not something i personally want to believe, although i almost don't feel enough anxiety to convince myself i don't. so now im like intellectually freaking out, almost like this is my ocds last ditch attempt to throw me back into it
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