I have had hocd for a while now almost a year... and I am in a happy realatship with my boyfriend but I still get the feel of doubt like what if I don’t love him... and then the next day I will be completely fine and now I was just laying in bed and then all of a sudden I thought what if I become transgender and my heart just dropped I had like serval mental break down I have been doing so many compulsions because I know I am heterosexual and I love my boyfriend like why am I thinking of all it ? I am so scared please help

I can’t reassure you, and I think not asking and getting an answer to that question will help you calm down a lot ? Can you try and see for a while if you feel better if you try to not find that answer? It’s okay to feel lost, and it’s okay to feel uncertain. I understand %100 how you feel. but take a break tonight on figuring out all of these answers to these thoughts and questions in your head, and just only focus on grabbing yourself a snack and plush and relax for a bit. If these transgender thoughts come, let them be. Let them float like clouds. Shrug off and say “ok whatever maybe I am or maybe im not, im not paying attention to you. Im going to eat this food and im not stopping you, just flow through” Basically try and let the thought go through without intervening with mental rituals ?

Because you have OCD and the thoughts you care about most will be takin advantage of and twisted. Try not to let yourself do the compulsions.. short term relief is not what you want.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. ): It must be really tough and I can only imagine the heart ache. I’ve been through your shoes before, every sentence. Every single one (except replace the Hocd in the first sentence with Rocd). It’s the worse thing imaginable. How about pouring yourself a cup of milk to lie and relax? I know it seems scary but you are not alone. Trust me when I say this: exposure. Tell your boyfriend you love them, even if it hurts. Do not let this monster ocd get in your way of being the loving girlfriend you wish to be! Let these thoughts go through ⭐️ OCD is a bully. Don’t google advice or “do I love him “ articles and “I love him” quizes or “signs he isnt the one”. Don’t analyze your feelings. Take care of yourself ❤️ I’m sending love to you and your boyfriend! You will get through this! Give him a big hug even if ur ocd screams at you to get away! Ocd is ocd, the content doesnt matter. Whether its u loving your boyfriend or obsessing about your sexual orientation, you will always treat them with ERP and ACT and CBT. You can ask me all about those three!

And I’m sorry you’re going through this. I remember what it was like and it breaks my heart to see you go through the same thing

Do nothing. I've had the transgender issue as well. It's just a thought ? there is no meaning to it. Just let it be.

@fems I suppose so, as long as you know that at the end of the day, the context doesnt matter, the way you react to it does

@Georgia14 Do you think that maybe saying “because I know I love him” is a compulsion to reassure yourself of your friends? You cannot control your thoughts, you can however control your actions :) Let the thoughts flow through ☁️ have some act of the day: ACT Acceptance - Accept those thoughts and don’t fight them. Infact, encourage them and say bring it on ocd! Commitment - Commit to your values if your values are to be a loving girlfriend, act on those values by doing what you think a loving girlfriend should do. Yes this is exposure. But it is worth it! Good luck! ⭐️?

Thank you sm for all the love and support ❤️ but is the transgender thing normal like do u think I am just overthinking I am scared that It’s going to become a obsession... I am so lost

How do I stop it from being obsession do I ignore or do I do nothing ?

Thank you sm ❤️I really appreciate it !

But would u put transgender intrusive thoughts under sexuality ocd ? That might be dumb question but I am just curious because they always say hocd thoughts are about being gay or straight and nothing about the trans one that’s why I was so scared I thought it was a real thought!

I’m going through a similar thing I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend and I’m so happy with him but then I get thoughts like “do you really love him” and it drives me crazy sometimes because I know I love him

This really helps me so instead of trying to fight the thoughts just let them flow through and my goal is to focus on being a loving and caring girlfriend?

oops didnt mean to say friends! I meant feelings haha! And yes ? !!! It is okay if it seems hard but the more you try, the easier itll get

My boyfriend knows about the thoughts and struggles and he is so caring about it he helps me a lot?!!

I am glad you have support from them!! ✨

It may seem hard but I hope ERP goes well for you!!

What if I do t have ocd the thoughts feel so real like I am lying next to my boyfriend and having a scary thoughts imagining if I was a boy and it makes me so uncomfortable!!! Idk what to do is this normal for ocd I have hocd but now the trans thing is really getting to me

Take a deep breath. I can’t reassure you because it will not help you in the long run sadly ): but remember: at the end of the day, it is OCD and to get through OCD, you have to exposure yourself and not compulse. Thoughts... are like clouds... when you feel them, you may feel the need to instantly analyze and stop them right? do you think you can sit with the anxiety and not reassure yourself or do your mental rituals? The anxiety will eventually pass and the thoughts will too. Let them flow, don’t stop the clouds ? let them fly away If you need me, message me!

And I dont mean you always have to expose. It applies to being triggered by thoughts too

Uglyjd how can I message you? I feel so scared because not doing anything w the thoughts and just having them there makes me feel sad and depressed have u recovered ocd ? Is ocd ever gunna go away

I used to nap a lot and have constant headaches and stomach aches but eventually, I took care of myself more and the thoughts were easier to handle. Ocd can’t be cured but it can be easier to handle to the point of being able to look at the bad thoughts and say “oh hahaha lol I cant believe they used to scare me so much”!! Good luck!!?

But just having the thoughts just make me feel worst about myself because I know they not real but then I ask myself why am I even having them then I go crazy and then I try not doing anything about but it makes me depressed to have such uncomfortable thoughts like it , it makes me feel like I am in denial and guilty but my head and heart is telling me two different things and it makes me confused

Like I am so happy w my boyfriend and then I have these uncomfortable thoughts of me turning trans and then well I am trying to not think of the thought I see myself in the mirror confused and depressed

Fems, I think that you are asking these questions to find reassurance. That will not help in the run ): sadly✨ Try not to have all the answers to your questions and accept uncertainty and not knowing for sure. Maybe you are trans? Maybe you are not trans. Look at my advice above in this post ☁️ let the thoughts IN and I know it seems scary ): But try taking a break from this app? I know you might have the urge to knw all of these questions but really, unless its once in a while for things youve never encountered upon, the reassurance will make you feel better for a little while but will make your ocd worse In the long run. Take a moment to read all of what ive said above :) ✨?

Ik but it’s so hard... I have had another mental break down today over it I can’t stop crying because I don’t know how to be uncertain I feel lost like how can I just let it sit there the anxiety just get worst when I don’t reassure myself

Is there any way I can call you on skype? I think I can help you and give you tips throughout the week

Do u have fb messenger?

I have snapchat

How old are you ? Not in any rude age jw because I am 16 and I have snapchat too I can download skype if u want

I think I just added u

Okay I added you ?