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usually a common thing with soocd!
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Even if I'm not attracted to him? I just feel like I LOVE HIM, not that he is attractive, because I really don't like his appearance.
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@memlo since you’re into the same sex, u most likely just have platonic love for him! i’ve had the same issure but vice versa and my best advice is to accept that there is a possibility you like this friend but don’t break up with your girlfriend as it shows that you still have love for her
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@nikkii accepting the possibility of liking this friend as a way to accept your thoughts and not go into compulsion ^
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I really can't accept that, just the thought of me liking him makes me wanna puke, sincerely. This is a big issue because everyone says that I have to accept the possibility, but it doesn't help me at all, it just makes me feel even worse, I've been crying for days because of this
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i know what you mean i have the same feelings. it’s hard for a lot of people with this theme to just accept it bc they think it would become true. take self care days and start slowly with recovery
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@nikkii Yes, I don't want to like him, I just want things to be the way they were weeks ago. I feel that if I keep going like this, I might fall in love with him and I don't want to, I just want my partner, the mere thought of not being with her gives me so much anxiety. Also I didn't understood what you meant with platonic love, as everyone has a different view of that kind of things.
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@memlo not to give reassurance but if this attraction gives you anxiety, it’s not right for you. and i meant plationic love as in you love your friend as exactly that - friends.
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@nikkii You're talking about my friend? Or my partner? Sorry if I ask so much, english is not my native and I get confused easily. That type of love is actually what I feel when I get those "lucid moments", I will be like "oh I really love my friend! but as a friend only" and feel so sure about it, but when the thoughts come back it feels as my mind was telling me "see? You're thinking this again, so you do LOVE your friend"... And it feels so real.
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@memlo yes i was talking about your friend. ocd makes your obsessions feel real even when they’re not
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@nikkii Oh ok, but- How can I cope with this? I can't get therapy right now because my parents neglect me so much, I feel like I need to do everything alone, because I obviously cannot talk about this with my partner, neither with my friends.
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@memlo since i’m in the same boat, try journaling or meditation to soothe the anxiety and lower compulsions
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@nikkii tell your partner when you think it’s right
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@memlo Hey on this app there fee group therapy sessions on certain days regarding sexual intrusive thoughts. Maybe attending one will help!
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Thank you so much, I hope you can get better soon ❤️
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
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I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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