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Like theres these things that some people with OCD get where like for expample "you need to let go" or something of that nature plays on a song in the car and it triggeres you and makes you doubt your relationship and makes you believe that god or the universe is trying to tell you something.
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Oh yeah of course, normally it’s songs or movies about love, where they seem obsessed with their partner and they are seemingly feeling a great amount of love all the time, but now that doesn’t bother me because I know it’s bull shit, but now it’s like when I listen to an artist that my ex used to like, it makes me think that o want my ex back when I clearly don’t because I love my current gf so much and Me are her are so close and love eachother so much, it’s just stupid shit that doesn’t even mean anything and it explodes in our brains that makes us doubt
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Yeah this was my first ever intrusive thought, I know how you feel, don’t try and force the feelings, makes it worse
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Is it normal for it to last like multiple days?
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It can last for however long it wants to, the best thing to do is expose it and get rid of the worry because once you do that, feelings will come back slowly and that worry won’t be as severe, obviously sometimes it comes back and you have the same worries but again just expose the thought, it works trust I’ve been through the same and sometimes still struggle with it but it gets easier
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Do you also struggle with seeing like "signs"?
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What do you mean, I don’t really understand??
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I tried getting therapy but its too expensive so idk what to do.
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I don’t do therapy, but all I do is just sit there with the thought and practice breathing, sometimes the thought will go and sometimes it will stay, but be very careful when doing it because you might accidentally trigger something or compulse without knowing and then you realise later on that it was an compulsion, trust me I’m doing it right now and I’m finding it hard
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Your feelings, do not matter. All is see if you scared because internally you really do love her. Feeling numb and disconnected means nothing truly. I had relationship OCD once and I didn’t even know I had OCD at the time but what I learned is, accept her grace and cherish her. God made women to be our partners, that’s why He made them out of our ribs. Place your yoke on Him and accept her love. I know it will be hard but today, tell your girlfriend “I love you and I cherish you, if I mean the world to you, you mean the universe to me.” And even if you don’t feel it, push forward. No one who doesn’t love someone would not worry about it. I love you man, God bless. :)
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I feel like I’m falling apart. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He’s kind, loving, supportive — and I know he loves me deeply. But I can’t feel anything anymore. I sit next to him, and I feel numb. I kiss him, and it feels empty. I remember how I used to feel, and now… nothing. It terrifies me. The worst part is that I don’t even know what’s real anymore. I constantly question if I ever loved him, if I’m just forcing things out of guilt or fear. Sometimes I imagine breaking up, and I feel nothing — and that scares me even more. I keep thinking: if I really loved him, wouldn’t I feel it? I’ve read about ROCD. I want to believe that’s what this is. But the thoughts feel so real. And I can’t stop spiraling. My therapist didn’t help — she made me feel like maybe I was lying to myself. My mom either tells me to stop overthinking or gets angry. I have no one to really talk to. If anyone here has been through this — through the numbness, the “what if I never loved him?” thoughts, the feeling like it’s all fake — please tell me how you got through. I’m exhausted. I just want to feel peace again.
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Today, my boyfriend — who usually doesn’t post much — made a really sweet TikTok with me. He used a trend where he called me his princess and posted it on Close Friends. It was thoughtful and loving… but I felt nothing. And that terrified me. Last night, I looked at him while we were lying in bed and had a thought: “I lost feelings. I don’t like him anymore.” It hit me like a wave, and since then I’ve been so scared that this is all the proof I need that I don’t love him. The worst part? I’m not feeling any positive emotions at all. No joy. No spark. No connection. I’ve been trying so hard for so long to feel something — anything — and I just can’t. I’m scared that the numbness means the love is gone. I’m scared I never truly loved him. I’m scared I’ve just been coping all this time, forcing it. I feel like the relationship is fake, like I’m fake, and everything is falling apart. And still… he keeps showing up for me. He’s loving, kind, and consistent. He tells me how much he loves me. But I can’t feel the warmth anymore, and I don’t know what’s happening to me. I’m miserable, I feel like a shell, and I’m terrified that this is my truth — that I don’t love him and I’m just in denial. I need help. I don’t want to lose him. But I also don’t want to keep living in this constant fear, panic, and emotional numbness. I don’t know what to trust anymore — the thoughts, the feelings, or the memories that feel blurry. Has anyone felt this too?
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