My boyfriend is a very good looking man but when we took this photo he looks half asleep and it bothered me all night and I started to look at the pictures and look at my boyfriend, then back at the picture and so on and so forth because I started to think “is my boyfriend ugly?” But I know he’s not. To me I think it’s just a bad picture. I have another one in my archive where my eyes look red and demonic from the flash and another picture I’m sitting down and you can see my panties in full view. Out of all the pictures this ones the best one but I feel he looks bad in this one yet I know he’s good looking and I kept telling myself “you’re really gonna break up with him over a picture? He’s not even ugly in real life. It’s just a picture” my thoughts are so bad and I can’t take it I feel so bad

From reading your paragraph and also dealing with relationship ocd, I can tell you that this sounds like textbook ocd. You’ve been trying to perform mental compulsions such as looking for “bad” pictures of yourself for proof that it is normal to have a “bad” photo, and completing mental compulsions on reminding yourself he is attractive and it is just a photo. Sometimes just acknowledging that these thoughts are merely mental ocd compulsions can help! Everytime you have one of those thoughts just remind yourself that it is an ocd thought and you don’t need to analyze all the possible meanings of those thoughts. <3

You guys look great 🥰ocd attacks what you care about most try to remember that when you find yourself spiraling over these thoughts and try to not engage in mental compulsions

I can relate to this. Just let yourself not like the picture. OCD is telling you that to like your boyfriend you have to like every single thing about them, including a specific pic, and that’s not true. Just let yourself think “yup, dude looks like a total derp in that pic. There’s a possibility that that means I think he’s ugly, can’t be 100% certain. Oh well.” In relationship OCD, purposeful decisions count for a lot more than feelings. For example “I can’t be 100% sure that I really like this guy even though I think I probably do, but I’m choosing to be with him regardless so whatever.”

Just wanted to add that I had horrible ROCD when I was dating my wife. Been married for 7+ years and we have an amazing daughter. The way I did it was by recognizing that I am able and strong enough to make decisions regardless of feelings or lack thereof. Once you learn get firm with your decisions and just let yourself be a little reckless OCD starts to back the hell off a little.

I had the same problem. I was in a relationship and my boyfriend was/is extremely hot. But ROCD + HOCD literally ruined my relationship. I had a phase where my mind kept telling me he's not hot enough or I wanna break up with him and my behaviour hurt him (obviously). When I came back to my sense, I realised what a blunder I had done. It wasn't me it was my OCD and this guilt will stay with me forever. Thanks to OCD, we're not together anymore. He stayed till last and supported me but nvm. OCD is a beast, it ruins everything that's important to you.