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As a gay man who is very sure of himself, ill say that I do sometimes questioning whether other people are gay or not. But thats all it is, a question. Not a conclusion.
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do you analyse it?
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@Nour04 Nahh. I mean i may be like oh i wonder if they're gay cus its just a vibe i get from them, but then im like "well either way doesnt really matter in the end". Id say cus ur question is just based in OCD info, i can provide some info and say sexual orientation questioning is a common part of ocd. Like even sometimes i question my own. Tbh ive never heard of someome gay doing it as a form of projection but more so as a curiosity.
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@AJDCTX12 it's because i worry my mum, siblings and cousins are. i try to find "proof" they are or aren't.
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@Nour04 Id say this would be a good time to practice sitting and allowing uncertainry to come in and really say to yourself "maybe, maybe not"
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my SO-OCD thoughts have projected onto others only like once or twice, but i want you to know that you are valid. you don’t need to seek certainty about whether this is projection of your “true” sexual orientation. i hope that sorta helped, i tried not to provide compulsive reassurance! but definitely accepting the uncertainty will ease the intensity and frequency of the thoughts
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