Why do I feel completely normal and comfortable around my boyfriend of 6 years instead of feeling "in love" and attraction?

do you *choose* to love him? love isn’t always a feeling, it’s an action that you choose to do. yes, feelings are a good sign that you do love them but ultimately it’s something you wake up everyday and choose to do. don’t get caught up in “feelings” because feelings aren’t always reliable (which we all know)

My gosh sir I was going to comment the same thing you absolutely nailed it

@NOCD Advocate - Mike i’m a girl but great!!😂

@bigblue Sorry your avatar says otherwise 😅

This is extremely normal for all long term relationships!

I don't know why its so hard for my brain to accept that feelings aren't everything in a relationship and that being calm and comfortable is a good thing

I wish I was calm and comfortable. You are very lucky to have that as I just feel constantly worries and sick with doubt and dread

Well I am feeling constant doubt and worries due to not having the loving feelings