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I agree with with telling yourself “yes, I did those things. Maybe I was insensitive to his feelings, maybe I wasn’t.” (I’m dealing with something similar and confession was such a strong urge). I’ve been told that I need to make a choice. Whether to live in the past or live in the present. Choose the present.
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Everytime a thought comes up and you’re triggered to ruminate, do this instead. Say: I may have said terrible things, I may get trapped in a feeling that may last forever. I may feel guilty and feel like a bad person. I will accept the uncertainty and move on. Ultimately your rumination will never stop, because you’re trying to get a certain feeling that you didn’t do something bad. But there is no certainty. It’s not even an objective thing you are looking for . So work on accepting that there is a possibility that you did something wrong, and do not give in to the compulsions .
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Just say yah I did those things. That’s in the past and I can’t change the past. I know my boyfriend forgives me, so what good is it going to do to worry?
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i struggle with those kinds of thoughts too i just get so overwhelmed with guilt and shame
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Yes exactly!!
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Yup! But when you face the thoughts and really say yah I did that but I can’t change it, you become okay with it over time
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I know exactly what your going through it’s hard and I’m glad your bf is supportive of you and you guys are still together. But it’s not good to ruminate about the past although I do the same all the time. It’s best to sit with it and let the thoughts go through and do nothing at all. Just sit with it and continue with the present. It’s a hard thing to do, trust me, but it will help you deal with your intrusive thoughts
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This is my first post & I’m terrified. I have not been officially diagnosed w ocd yet but in a nutshell - I confessed some things I felt guilty about to my husband about five months ago. ( nothing too major ) but in our past, 20+ years ago I was unfaithful and it caused a LOT of harm, which I told him all of that back when it happened. But in recent months, I started getting consumed by guilt. I couldnt eat or sleep until I finally broke one night and told him all these recent little things I felt guilty about. Acting flirty, etc. And for him it like brought back allll the trauma from 20 years ago which I didn’t know would happen. But it’s so bad. He says he wishes I never told him. But even w that, I still feel like I keep thinking of “new things “ I did in the past, thoughts I had or dreams, or conversation w an ex,things like that. Because I am a Christian I also keep feeling like it’s the Holy Spirit telling me I haven’t told him everything and I need to. But I also know God doesn’t give us a spirit of fear .. I clearly need help, but I also want Christian based help so that it’s in line w what I believe ? I can’t eat and my anxiety is so bad again - I know if I confess more things it will keep destroying him, I don’t think he really understands or believes I have ocd. Thanks if you made it this far
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I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.
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So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips
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