how to get over compulsion of not telling my partner everything? i think of things i’ve done badly regarding him and i feel the need to tell him, even when it’s something insignificant like whether or not i’ve said a certain thing about him back when we were just friends (which was literally a year ago) it drives me crazy because i know damn well it’s a compulsion, that he literally won’t care or get upset, yet my brain thinks of it as “oh yeah, this is pretty bad! no matter how much time has passed, you have to tell him!!” it also drives me crazy because this thought process is pretty picky. i’ll be 100% okay with not sharing certain things, but when it comes to other things, the anxiety ramps up and all of a sudden i feel like i’m keeping secrets and being a bad girlfriend for doing certain things i’m not even sure happened. (real event ocd? i don’t even know man.)

SunsetAquari...

Date posted: 4y

Wow I’m going through the same. exact. thing. You’re not alone at all. This month I told my boyfriend so many little things from years ago because I was making myself literally sick from the guilt that I felt the need “to come clean” even though I told myself it’s in the past, it felt like it happened yesterday

pennydreadful

Date posted: 4y

it gets me anxious just thinking about all the potentially bad stuff i’ve done, and the urge to tell him feels so strong and so needed. ugh.

cjv

Date posted: 4y

I think I have something similar, so it definitely could be OCD

cjv

Date posted: 4y

I think we’re supposed to go about resisting the urge… hang in there!

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