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Remember that if you just stick it out and focus on real life, the confusion will pass. Try to think of this panicky feeling almost like feeling sick or having a headache. These things just happen sometimes. And you don’t have to keep monitoring to check if it’s over yet—your job is to disengage from that and re-engage with every day experiences. It helps me to think “it’s ok if I don’t feel so good about the relationship in this moment” and “nobody said I have to make a decision one way or another this week.” Try to just frame it like you’re in a shitty mood this week and you’re in no place to make a judgement calls—tell yourself you’ll evaluate things next week (which is just a way of delaying compulsions to eventually hopefully resist doing them altogether).
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you don’t have to dump him to have a career, take time to work on urself and give some healthy space to the relationship. i went through Rocd and didn’t take the time needed for myself to grow and find out what career i wanted or what i wanted at all. Now that we’re not together it’s easy for me to see that we just needed healthy space and it would help a lot w the annoying feelings toward ur partner. i hope this relates in some way?
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I’ve been there and I know how panicky you feel. I’m sorry you’re going through that. It’s really scary but the panic will pass.
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- 23w
For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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- 20w
Idk if this post is even worth it but it seemed like a normal day for me, called off work due to the weather so I get to just stay home and play games all day. Easy day besides dealing with the constant and unbearable battle with my intrusive thoughts/feelings. Took a shower and I just had constant thoughts, (heart palpitations are pretty constant) ended up breaking down and bawling my eyes out. I was diagnosed with HOCD and ROCD about 2 months ago and since it's just gotten worse. It feels as real as it can get and after talking to my girlfriend about the anxiety attack, it feels even more real. I have no desire or enjoyment from what comes from my brain, and at this point I'm on my knees begging the big man upstairs for my old life back, how do I go from being obsessed with women (sexually and emotionally) to pretty much doing a 180 overnight (with the obvious anxiety and worry behind it. No real desire obviously). I'm just at a loss, I've done a little ERP and it seemed to help with the brain fog but besides that, everything that it does to someone, I have. And again there's the doubt I even have OCD and I'm in straight denial. It just sucks.
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- 14w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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