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You being scared that you don’t love youre girlfriend it’s proof enough that you care and love her. If you didn’t then the worry wouldn’t be there. I get thee “signs” too and what Ive learned about OCD is it makes it so real. It feels the signs fit so perfectly. We’ve all been there bud.
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Is it normal that it feels wprse than normal? Like everything seems different like just new (in a bad way). Like it got stronger
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Of course, there’s always highs and lows and ups and downs with OCD. The unfamiliar feelings will always get you.
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@Anonymous It just feels like so new and something i havent experienced before and it scares me because it feels like all the things im afraid of are true and iv just been in denial or something
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@Anonymous Remember man, if you didn’t love your girlfriend then you wouldn’t be worried right now. The OCD is taking over. For me Id get used to a feeling know how to control it and then another one would pop in and it would feel brand new and scare the ever living heck out of me. That’s normal. Think about all the good feelings. The moment you cherish with her. If you didn’t love her, you’d never have those moments.
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At the core of all obsessions is a desire to feel security about something we fundamentally cannot have certainty about. Imagine if you were in the woods and you saw a bear. The next time you were in the woods, you’d be thinking about bears. You’d be looking for signs of bears. And you’d want to avoid any chance, if possible, of encountering a bear. You’d be analyzing what you’re observing or experiencing in the hopes of avoiding being in danger. That’s essentially what your brain is doing with your obsession. It’s attached a sense of danger to a particular thought that almost everyone has, and now it begins a cycle of compulsions to try and soothe that sense of distress. Of the many compulsions, some are analyzing, reviewing and asking for reassurance. Resisting and reducing compulsions is a key component in achieving recovery from OCD. So, while I can’t provide you with reassurance, I can suggest that if you’re not in treatment that you begin. Or if you’ve already started, to continue working with your therapist towards your ultimate goals.
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New and stronger with the OCD, it just doesnt feel like the familiar things that I go through with this
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Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we haven’t talked much this past week. I don’t really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I don’t love him anymore, maybe I’ve changed, and maybe this relationship doesn’t feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad — not because he’s controlling, but because in our relationship, we’ve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, I’ve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: “What if I didn’t go just because of him?”, “What if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I don’t really love him?”, “What if I’m holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?” All of this makes me think I’m bored, that I don’t like him anymore, or that I’m staying out of habit. It’s hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if I’m just attached to him because he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldn’t care if we broke up, and that I don’t feel anything for him anymore — and that absolutely destroys me, because he’s such a good person who truly loves me. He doesn’t deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I don’t know what’s real and what’s just obsession. It hurts that I can’t feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if I’m in denial and refusing to accept the truth
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me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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