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- 3y
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- 3y
Feelings and thoughts come and go. I’ve been through enough OCD cycles to know once I calm down and un-fuse from my OCD feelings and thoughts, I have a completely different outlook of my boyfriend, what’s true. OCD will lie and say different things to convince you it’s different this time! But it’s not. Hang in there, let time pass.
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- 3y
thank you so much for these helpful words. i’ll make sure to remember this! 😊
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- 3y
@bellag You know, I was watching a webinar on NOCD last Wednesday and they mentioned something worth remembering. On my bad days I’m always trying to achieve comfort, like that’s my goal. Also on my bad days I regret not getting anything done bc I stay stuck and busy working on comfort. The guest on the webinar said his “sitting with it” isn’t literally sitting still with it. He makes a list of things he needs to accomplish for the day and works on checking them off. He said it’s not so much distraction bc the thought has its way of staying with him and later in the webinar he said he doesn’t try to get comfortable, he’s just okay with being uncomfortable just going about his day. Then lol lastly I love affirmations “letting go in a relationship can be fun” and “I don’t need to analyze my partner”. Those two are from an app I have and I circle those around in my mind too. Harder to do than say but letting go (once i can do it) brings me stability & I have to remind myself what I want - a happy, healthy relationship, eventually marriage, someone with a good heart to grow old with, etc.
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- 3y
It’s not real. I think of mine as my brain using a defensive mechanism to try to protect me from getting hurt by attacking my relationships and distorting things to push me away and keep me safe. It’s your brain just doing what it was trained to do. That doesn’t mean that it’s real!
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- 3y
thank you so much! i didn’t even look at it that way :)
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- 3y
Yeah I have this too and I’m terrified
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- 3y
i’m so sorry that you’re going through this as well. but hey, you’re not alone!
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- 24w
Lately, I’ve been struggling with feelings that I might be sabotaging myself in my relationship. By sabotage, I mean that I find it hard to stop engaging in compulsions, like seeking reassurance or overanalyzing my thoughts. I also sometimes behave badly with my boyfriend, and the intrusive thoughts I have can completely change my mood. I love my boyfriend—he’s such a good, beautiful, and wonderful person—but I’m afraid these thoughts are going to ruin things. I truly want to love him, but I’m scared. I know the thoughts are anxiety-driven, but they still make me question if I’m forcing myself to stay with him. Today, for example, I felt okay earlier, but when he called me on video, I suddenly felt like I didn’t feel anything, and I started thinking I don’t like how he looks. These thoughts hit me like a wave, and I panicked. Usually, I find him very attractive, but when these thoughts come, I feel sad and disconnected. What’s confusing is that I also have many moments—like today and in the past few days—where I’ve felt really good and I’ve felt love for him. I feel awful writing this because my boyfriend doesn’t deserve this, and I feel like I’m posting out of habit. It makes me scared that I don’t want to accept the truth, even though I know I care about him. I hate feeling this way because it feels like I’m betraying him by having these thoughts and posting them. Has anyone else dealt with these feelings of sabotaging their relationship or feeling like they’re forcing themselves to stay? How do you cope when the thoughts feel like they’re true, and how do you work through the fear of letting go of anxiety
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 13w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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- 8w
Recently my ocd keeps asking me if I love my boyfriend enough and that if I don’t love him enough I should breakup with him. It’s really bothering me and idk what to do about it. Sitting in the uncertainty is too much and I fear sitting with it too long I’m just gonna crack and give in to a compulsion.
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