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zma

282d ago

Relationship OCD

ever since i broke up with my s.o in february i’ve been stuck in a thought loop about her and about the breakup and it’s extremely obsessive and i don’t know how to stop. my ocd brain can’t stop ruminating over why did she leave why wasn’t i enough i don’t understand.. and just other aspects about the breakup. it’s a constant cycle of trying to analyse and understand the things she said, and constantly going over the pain of the breakup and things she said and did in the relationship. it’s exhausting and depressing as rationally i can tell she treated me like shit and i should move on but my ocd won’t let me. i can’t stop obsessing and ruminating. was wondering if anyone has ever had a similar thing and if anyone has any tips to stop this ruminating as it drives me insane. thanks xxx

jello86

282d ago

I definitely feel this, I’ve been here so many times :( when a little piece of the breakup doesn’t “make sense” to me it’s REALLY hard for me to let go of it and keep going over it and over it again. Something to remember is that no matter how much you think about it, there’s no new information. You still can’t ever 100% understand what went on in another human being’s head and that’s just a truth we have to accept in life, and no amount of ruminating will change that. I’m sorry you’re going through this :( the best thing is to just try to build up new things to focus on in your life like hobbies and friendships.