Ok I have a question for y’all. After you have a good moment with a guy, like when you think about him and want to be with him and it feels good, does anyone get the intrusive thought “what if I’m romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to women?” Because that just came up for me and it is not fun and very worrying. Because I have been aroused by lesbian porn (I did this before my HOCD intrusive thoughts started) and now I’m worried because I was aroused by that I can only be sexually attracted to women ?

I have these fears to. I’ve watched lesbian porn in the night and not even think about it through the day. No porn/masturbation since September for me

Same here, I did this in elementary school because I was exploring but I stopped after two months because I realized I didn’t like it. But I was aroused but I never thought about it and it never made me doubt I was heterosexual

I'm in the exact same situation. It's so scary, because I'd never engage in an actual relationship with a woman. It's just not who I am. But I did watch it, and it never worried me or made me doubt about my desires in regard to men. Since I started having hocd (in January), this made me paranoid about this. And I even read about a woman who had hocd, and she recovered from it and continued to identify as heterosexual but says securely that she finds women beautiful too, but that doesn't change the fact that she's heterosexual. This gave me such a relief at the time, but now I started worrying again about the same thing. It was like that for her, but what about it Isn't for me? This doubting is making me go insane. Besides, I'm getting to know a guy, and he's so sweet, I'm starting to like him a lot, but I'm so afraid that this mess that I am now is going to push him away. I can't stand this anymore.

Let the thoughts be! They are just thoughts. You have the choice to be whoever you want to be and with whoever you want to be with. You have a choice. Don't let OCD think you don't. It's ok to feel attraction towards both sexes - that doesn't mean you want to be in a relationship with someone because you're attracted to them. Falling in love isn't just about attraction, it's about emotional connection. So regardless of the sex you prefer, get to know someone with no judgement and then decide if they are for you because of who they are and what they bring to the relationship.