I need help, i'm currently suffering from partner focused Rocd. I was able to overcome 5 other ocd subtypes but this one i just can't seem to get it right. I'm going to start therapy soon because i can no longer do it on my own. But i wanted to know if anybody else on this chat suffers from it or has been able to overcome it?

Anyone who’s conquered rocd I would love advice. I am in therapy but I have this one sticky thought that will not go away. I’m talking months and months. Sometimes whether it be a moment or on/off I think my partner looks ugly. It feels 100% true. This thought/feeling produces distress and guilt. I constantly am trying to figure out ocd and that’s turned obsessive. I’m constantly trying to understand what’s real and just understand what is happening to me and how to overcome this. I’ve struggled with different themes in the past, but this one is different with how the thoughts present (feeling so real immediately)

I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.

I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you