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I listened to an audible book once and it gave real life experiences. Some of them were kinda similar to yours. When he would get intimate with his gf he would have very intrusive thoughts about a man. He wasn’t attracted to men at all, no interest. Then there was one woman who would have intrusive thoughts about her brother when she was with her bf and it disgusted her. It said OCD has it’s way of butting in when we are having pleasant moments in our lives.
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mine is of the opposite sex :( so, a man. it feels like i’m cheating :( but thank you for sharing this with me. it disgusts and worries me.
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@bellag Yeah but in both scenarios the obsession was disgusting to the individuals. It uses something that’s so against your core values.
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@LisaP99 you’re right!
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And OCD can be like crashing waves, one after another not giving you a breather….
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it’s terrible. but you said it has a way of butting in when we’re trying to have pleasant/good moments.
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My heart goes out to you. You can master it. Not sure of your experience with OCD but ERP = healing.
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i’ve been diagnosed with OCD for 3 years almost. i got diagnosed with harm OCD but recently it’s been ROCD. haven’t done much with ERP. thank you for your kind words ❤️
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Welcome! Good luck!
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<3
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@bellag Hey, just curious how did you cope with harm OCD? Bc you can use the same skills. when OCD changes themes, it’s like “same guy, he’s just talking in a different accent”.
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@LisaP99 it gradually went away! i learned how to cope with the thoughts in a healthy way. i don’t know why i feel like this time is different., because i know it’s probably not and it’s the OCD just talking all the time. i still have other intrusive thoughts but it seems to be focusing in really hard on one particular theme right now. getting better tho! ❤️🩹
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Oh good! :)
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it literally ruins every good moment i have with my boyfriend. because my mind just can’t stop. is there a deeper meaning behind this?? am i not supposed to be with my boyfriend?? i just want to be with him. i don’t want anyone else in my head. it’s like an itch that i can’t get rid of.
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i literally didn’t think about this person at all until they were brought up. they drove a wall between me and my boyfriend once and now my brain is torturing me because i let it happen (subconsciously). and it makes me so uncomfortable when my mind is ruminating and reminding of someone i don’t wanna think about or run into ever again. i would say i’m scared of this person! i don’t want anything to do with them or any contact with them. and i don’t have any contact! so why is my brain doing thisss
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my relationship ocd theme is back and it hasn’t for a while. i keep having intrusive thoughts about a friend even tho i have a boyfriend of 6 years. i like do not like this person they are good looking but im not like into them. i like feel guilty for no reason and i feel like i need to tell my boyfriend even tho like we’ve been through this before and it only gets better if i tell him but if i don’t i feel like im hiding something. AHH like i don’t even wanna see that person anymore
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Ocd sucks. I’m at a stay away multiple days long event for school rn and ran into someone I used to talk with. We had a will they won’t they kind of thing for years and knew each other all growing up. I knew when we were really young that he had a crush on me for a while. And then when we got older there were times I had a crush on him but I don’t think he liked me anymore at that point. I never fully knew where he stood because he often was in a relationship or living somewhere else. Because we never dated or kissed or anything, only hung out on ambiguous date-like occasions, there has always been that what if sitting there for me and I hadn’t seen or spoken to him since before I met my current partner years ago. Well they happen to be at this place I’m staying at, where we are in the same places everyday, and I ran into them, said hi and caught up for a bit. It has totally triggered my ROCD in a way I’ve never experienced. I feel guilt and shame and keep having intrusive thoughts that are so extreme and catastrophic like what if I leave my partner of 8 years for him, what if I find him more attractive than my partner, what if I cross a line while I’m interacting with him this week, what if I’m a terrible girlfriend to my partner and a fraud??
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me last summer and it was really rough on me even thought we only dated for a little while. He treated me terribly but I guess I wanted it to work. However during the fall I was healing well and met my current boyfriend. I knew him as a kid and we reconnected and started dating. It’s the most WONDERFUL relationship ever and I love him so much. However for the past couple months, on and off, I have been obsessively thinking about my ex, to the point of feeling so sick to my stomach. Just the thought will do it. I have been stopping myself from checking his instagram because that just makes it worse. I do not want me ex back at all and I am so happy now. I recognize these thoughts as intrusive and hurtful. I just want them to stop and be in the moment. Has anyone had a similar experience? What did u do? Also, I want to tell my boyfriend about this but I am unsure on how to do so.
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