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Date posted: 3y ago

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alexisrae1999

Date posted: 3y ago

I'm so sorry... I have literally been through the exact same thing as you and I can tell you it's super hard and very traumatizing. My sister saw the texts to another woman off my dads phone when I was 13, and I saw one to the same woman from 9 years ago at the beginning of this year. You're going to feel confused, you're going to feel angry & resentful, and the more you try to not let yourself feel whatever you need to feel...you're going to stew in your feelings for way longer than necessary. He's your dad, so its going to hurt a lot but you NEED to process things and talk it out as soon as you feel comfortable. But don't force healing okay? Be patient and gentle when yourself. This is not your fault. I would mention it to your dad after talking about what you saw with a therapist or friend, after you've calmed down. Don't accuse him of anything. I made the mistake of instantly going to my mom and telling her, don't do that lol. Please take care of yourself!

alexisrae1999

Date posted: 3y ago

@annonymous Definitely bring it up to him and not her first, if your dad is anything like mine, it will end in screaming and blaming lol. But only talk to him after you've calmed down about what you saw to the point where you feel comfortable having a mature...uncomfortable conversation. I'm happy you feel less alone!:)

alexisrae1999

Date posted: 3y ago

@annonymous Try writing out your immediate thoughts in a journal so you can sort them out. That way, your head will be less of a jumbled mess of thoughts and emotions. After doing that it should be easier to let out how you're really feeling to your therapist :)

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

I am so sorry. This is so devastating.

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

My parents are divorced and ive dealt with a lot of family drama

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

So there are different scenarios & ways to handle this ... first - I would call a good friend. Vent it out!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

When my brother caught my dad cheating I think it was traumatizing for him. So this may be traumatizing and I would def text ur therapist or someone get professional advice on what to do - you are so mature and wise to even think to do this!! Go you!! I'm sorry this really sucks. Sending positive vibes to you!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

Try not to worry about that now. Who knows how you will see things in the future. It is normal to feel scared right now. Try to breath and hug yourself. Did you speak to anyone?

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

@annonymous Why are u nervous to talk to ur therapist? And no prob!! Good luck with this!! I think you are doing great! :)

kenny0

Date posted: 3y ago

it will be okay, and yes if you really want to

Imaan7

Date posted: 3y ago

Hey please take a deep breath first, I know what that must feel like. My mom and dad fight alot too and it crushes me. You need to let go of this as of right now. When you see your therapist next time you can talk about this is stressing you out. If you have a good relationship with your dad perhaps talk to him about it? If not, then give it a few days and think with a clear mind

Imaan7

Date posted: 3y ago

@annonymous Go for it then text them!

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

Wait before u do anything- double check your dads phone bc what if it really is not what you think ? If it is what you think then evaluate if your dad js safe to bring this info up to him? Does he have anger issues? Is he kind to you? If so- I would honestly confront your dad and mom together. I don't think there is use waiting the weekend. I don't think it's fair that you have to suffer with this information while everyone else has a good time. This is an issue within your family unit and everyone deserves to know and be invovled. Just make sure you are in a safe space mentally and physically for this

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

Oh 100 percent trxt ur therapist!!!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

Of course!!!

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

You could also prob find a therapist on call (online) if yours is busy

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

Bc I may not be giving good advice bc I'm not a trained therapist

cherryred14

Date posted: 24w ago

ROCD damaging my relationship

Right now, i’m waiting for a response from my partner. Yesterday, we got into a serious conversation about the repeated cycle of reassurance seeking and extreme anxiety. he’s been so incredibly patient but I think he’s hit a crosswords in that if I don’t make serious, healthier changes, he does not see the relationship continuing in a healthy or meaningful way anymore. This morning, I told him I wanted to give him space and to respond once he felt comfortable. I attended a support group today but I am consumed with spiraling, obsessive thoughts due to his lack of response now that it’s 5pm and I sent that text at 8am. I dont want to overwhelm him but i just dont know how to sit with the uncertainty. I feel like his lack of response and communication today means he wants to break up. I feel sick and cannot eat. I dont know what to do- any suggestions or thoughts?

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 20w ago

I could really use some support

I’ve been trying my best with ERP and just everything that’s going on. I have severe OCD, GAD, PMDD, panic disorder, recently diagnosed ADHD, and currently experiencing a major depressive episode. Apparently. I was taking a break from this app but I really need support right now. My family is honestly really mean and not understanding of what I’m going through. Right now it’s gotten bad to the point I had to withdrawal from my last semester of university. My only support is my boyfriend and he’s now planning to join the military. I won’t be able to talk to him for 3 months and I feel really scared of being alone with all of this. I know I shouldn’t depend on him to begin with but right now I’m at an extremely low point and I feel like I won’t make it alone. There hasn’t been a single day we haven’t texted and talked in 4 years. I feel really scared, but I don’t want to hold him back. You guys, I feel so sad and terrified right now. I don’t want him to go, he’s all I have.

malolin_21

Date posted: 17w ago

Hey:) I just want to vent

I’m feeling kind of sad cause today was not a really good day in terms of my ocd. I was feeling kind of foggy/numb and that send me to spiraling. I’m 21 years old currently studying but my family has been having trouble with money for the last couple years(we’re just me and my mom) and I kinda want to get a job but everything is far from my home and I wouldn’t be able to return back at night, also it’s either way more expensive to move or the schedule wouldn’t let me take my classes. The point is that because of that every time my mom is stress tends to treat me bad, she speaks to me like I’m stupid or she just screams to nothing cursing all life and everything and that actually makes me feel soo bad and guilty for not doing anything, I know it’s hard for me to get a job that actually helps us without quitting school but that doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m a burden. I want to help, I want to maybe hug her or something but I know she will be angrier and probably will reject it. So that’s it, I just feel like she punishes me for the stress she’s carrying and I get it but one day is happy and it feels like all love and the next is treating me like that, Idk it’s hard (also I feel like I shouldn’t be saying this cause it’s all my fault) 🫤

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