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And also simply understanding that sexuality is an integral part of humanity. We all have kinks and thoughts that connect to that. Thoughts aren't necessarily something you can control and it's how you choose to react to them that determines your character.
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Oh yes... It's a nightmare! What's helped me reach recovery is CBT and ERP.
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Sexual/violent thoughts are my biggest issue as well. In my CBT therapy we were told to try and take time to lay out what the thought was (probably the most difficult and upsetting part), what our emotions were right after having the thought. Write down evidence that both supports and opposes why that was your reaction, and then create a more balanced "reasonable" thought. I'll post an example of this as my next comment.
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It’s so horrible cause I’m so sexual and sometimes I like the thoughts cause I think about the sexual side of it..?
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TW: Sexually explicit Situation: Meeting a new coworker Intrusive thought: I have a thought where I am sexually forcing myself onto this coworker. Emotion after thought+rating: disgust, self disappointment, 7/10 Reasons why I should be worried about this thought:(this part is important to try even if you have a hard time coming up with reasons, that's a good sign) That person must know that I'm having these thoughts about them I'm a terrible person for having these thoughts Me having these thoughts will change how I interact with this person negatively Reasons I shouldn't be worried about this thought: I have thoughts like this frequently and have never acted on them I want to create a positive relationship with this new coworker The thought was upsetting to me which shows it is not a real desire of what I want Balanced thought: I can interact with this person positively in real life and this will help reduce the amount of upsetting thoughts about the person.
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Thank you!
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It bothers me because it relates to children
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I have this same problem too zg23. High sex drive like you too. It’s created some dysfunction for me though as it is challenging. We will never get an answer. Everything starts with a thought, good or bad deeds, ideas that repulse, and ideas that go into change the world. What is scary is the capacity for evil and well as good that we all seem to hold. I suspect everyone else is blissfully ignorant of the depths of the human mind. Still capability does not reflect likelihood and just as importantly it does not reflect desire. But sexual thoughts will create sexual feelings. Separate interest from biological response. And keep practising. Nothing is impossible good or bad. Know that the torment you feel shows you are less inclined than anyone else to be a Paedo or hurt a child. But it is not an IMPOSSIBILITY. Which we all want with THIS theme. Which is why it sticks. And is probably why it’s fast becoming a number one theme in ocd. Just like HIV did in the 80’s -
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Thank you.
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Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else has experienced something similar with OCD and intrusive thoughts. I’ve been struggling during moments of intimacy because intrusive thoughts, particularly ones related to POCD, feel so ‘sticky’—like they’re all I can picture. Even though I really want the thoughts to go away, they persist, and I’ve been trying not to avoid intimacy because of them. However, that makes me feel like I’m somehow ‘enjoying’ the thoughts or images, which I really dislike. It’s like my brain is playing this awful trick, and it’s leaving me feeling confused and gross. I guess I’m supposed to not let the thoughts bother me and continue as if nothing’s wrong, but I’m scared that by doing so, I’m almost training myself to get off to them or something. This fear makes it so hard to trust myself in those moments, and it’s been overwhelming. If anyone else has been through this, how do you handle it?
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I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
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I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?
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