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And also simply understanding that sexuality is an integral part of humanity. We all have kinks and thoughts that connect to that. Thoughts aren't necessarily something you can control and it's how you choose to react to them that determines your character.
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Oh yes... It's a nightmare! What's helped me reach recovery is CBT and ERP.
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Sexual/violent thoughts are my biggest issue as well. In my CBT therapy we were told to try and take time to lay out what the thought was (probably the most difficult and upsetting part), what our emotions were right after having the thought. Write down evidence that both supports and opposes why that was your reaction, and then create a more balanced "reasonable" thought. I'll post an example of this as my next comment.
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It’s so horrible cause I’m so sexual and sometimes I like the thoughts cause I think about the sexual side of it..?
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TW: Sexually explicit Situation: Meeting a new coworker Intrusive thought: I have a thought where I am sexually forcing myself onto this coworker. Emotion after thought+rating: disgust, self disappointment, 7/10 Reasons why I should be worried about this thought:(this part is important to try even if you have a hard time coming up with reasons, that's a good sign) That person must know that I'm having these thoughts about them I'm a terrible person for having these thoughts Me having these thoughts will change how I interact with this person negatively Reasons I shouldn't be worried about this thought: I have thoughts like this frequently and have never acted on them I want to create a positive relationship with this new coworker The thought was upsetting to me which shows it is not a real desire of what I want Balanced thought: I can interact with this person positively in real life and this will help reduce the amount of upsetting thoughts about the person.
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Thank you!
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It bothers me because it relates to children
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I have this same problem too zg23. High sex drive like you too. It’s created some dysfunction for me though as it is challenging. We will never get an answer. Everything starts with a thought, good or bad deeds, ideas that repulse, and ideas that go into change the world. What is scary is the capacity for evil and well as good that we all seem to hold. I suspect everyone else is blissfully ignorant of the depths of the human mind. Still capability does not reflect likelihood and just as importantly it does not reflect desire. But sexual thoughts will create sexual feelings. Separate interest from biological response. And keep practising. Nothing is impossible good or bad. Know that the torment you feel shows you are less inclined than anyone else to be a Paedo or hurt a child. But it is not an IMPOSSIBILITY. Which we all want with THIS theme. Which is why it sticks. And is probably why it’s fast becoming a number one theme in ocd. Just like HIV did in the 80’s -
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Thank you.
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I’ve been dealing with POCD for months and fake arousal is the worse, especially now it’s changed to when I’m scrolling on an app, etc and happen to come across a child, my Pocd makes me have fake arousal as usually I do a compultion such as trying to stop the arousal from happening such as tending my body, etc. however, recently I’ve enjoyed the fake arousal and wanted it to happen because it feels “nice” and in the moment I “want” the fake arousal over the “child” and in the moment I feel “attracted to the child but after this I’m met with guilt and so so many compultions such as showing, washing my bedding etc etc CAN OCD MAKE YOUT BODY ENJOY SOMETHING!!? Please help!!!
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I can't look at 18+ videos, comics, etc. I am straight, but SO-OCD tries to make me think I am not And the thoughts turns to feelings, and makes me scared, uncomfortable, sad, because I know this is not me. And when I try to imagine myself being with the woman on adult videos, and comics, my OCD gives gronal response not at the girl, and it fills me with fear, and anxiety, I always loved, and was attracted to women but I can't and it caused me to be depressed, and I keep ruminating I keep trying to focus on her, but it's so bad that I avoid those all the time now. I am wondering has anyone gone through something like this, or currently is, and wondering how you have done to combat this!
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so I’ve been seeking therapy for my OCD for a few years. The theme that I’ve been dealing with most recently is the fear of becoming a pedophile, which then has led to intrusive images of me doing things to kids.Which now is just causing me so much distress and 24/7 constant thought cycle. I am starting to not be able to tell the difference between thoughts that are wanted/ unwanted- the line has become some blurry and these things are starting to feel like someothing i want to do. My brain keeps telling me to just test these thoughts and the “maybe”or”i don’t know” isn’t working. This has become such a barrier because the second layer is that I’m afraid that if I just let the thoughts be there it’ll make me be OK with doing those things and the fear is what’s keeping me from actually doing something inappropriate. It’s also transitioned into intrusive thoughts and images of me doing something very disgusting to my dog and that when I’m cuddling with him I get the thoughts to just do it or try it to see if i am actually a p*do. it’s almost like the compulsion would be to do the inappropriate thing, even though I know it’s wrong just to see how it would make me feel. I feel like i can’t control these urges even though i’ve never acted on it. At any point i could just do it. I’ve never had these thoughts before up until about a year and a half ago when my friend‘s boyfriend got arrested for soliciting a minor then all these thoughts came to life.Has anyone experienced something like this and have any advice?
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