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- 3y
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like even about posting. i have become just "too lazy" to do so. too lazy to ruminate, too lazy to check lol
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As I have told you multiple times, ignorance is the key. But the fact that you still have something like that, and you give it importance, is not what you really want! Those intrusive thoughts, which have no power, should be really ignored, they can't define you, they can't tell you what to do or whatever you fear won't come to reality. Everything is illogical and the fact that you might still struggle against it, it gets fueled. Acceptance of the thoughts, acknowledging that they are here and not do anything, is what makes it lose its strength. Right now it tries to fool you with the classic ocd gimmicks, if someone is yours or not. Whatever feels alien, not correlating with your ego, feel like not yourself, is a trap released by ocd, knowing you might fall in it,but you are braver and better than this!
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If something is your or not*, my bad for mispelling
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@Gabbriel but like i haven't been engaging with the thoughts but sometimes i still feel bi. i think i just have to accept that i am ni at this point but i don't want to :( i am really trying hard not to engage. i don't think this is ocd anymore lol
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@Nour04 And if you do what? If you really know you are not, why would you still agree that you might be while you know you aren't? You can just let the feelijng be, it won't affect you and it will go away on its own. Anything bad that you think about and makes you will act on it, you won't.
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@Gabbriel but i don't even know if i am or not anymore :(
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@Nour04 That's the thing, why would you be? If you clearly know that you dislike it, you are not! Ocd makes you doubt it or make it feel like you actually like it, but the fact that you brought this up, you are struggling not to make it real which means you are completely normal but confused by the disorder. You are fine and everything you feel wrong is actually not yours! If it tells you that you are, obviously you are not! You don't need to fight it, just let it be. Everything that ocd tells you is completely the opposite, never do what it wants
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@Gabbriel i haven't been fighting it much and it has been very mild for about 3 months now. the thing is it doesn't feel like ocd anymore
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@Nour04 If it does feel like ocd or not, if you truly don't want it, why would you follow this thought? You clearly don't wanna be it, you struggle against it but for what? You have to power to decide if you either are or not, not the thought. You are still a normal person.
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@Nour04 If inside you know you are a good, a kind person, then a stranger comes in and calls you a loser, would you believe it? Don't let it! It doesn't really require ocd to have such thoughts, it is just the anxiety playing around. Don't listen to others opinions, only act on what your true heart desires are
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@Gabbriel thank you so much for all your help <3
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@Nour04 My pleasure, I can help and give you support daily or whenever you want
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@Nour04 Also, false acceptance is the key to winning this. So you have the thoughts saying bad stuff, you would have to say something like, okay so what? What if you are what the thoughts will say? Basically admit what they say, it will be a bit difficult but nothing is wrong, admitting to the thoughts will make you slightly anxious but it will fade away. It will not change the reality and you won't become what they really say. For example, you have thoughts of calling you stupid, dumb, idiot. You would say: Yes, I am all of those, so what? You will shut their doors while nothing changing in real life, you won't become stupid just because the thoughts said it. For example, I would think of infinite money falling out of the sky, would it happen? No, nothing will happen in the reality but my mind, then fade away! Will your worse thoughts come real? No! You can just admit it and leave them say whatever you want, it is like a bully calling you dumb and you would reply, yeah yeah, whatever you say. Basically being ironical to it or ignorance is the key.
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@Gabbriel thanks!!! i'm always here for you too
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@Nour04 If it happens for you to have discord, you can find mine in my profile's biography, at the bottom
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Makes you think you will act on it* Obviously anything you think will happen it won't, you are scared of something harmless
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Follow your heart, not the buzzing thing in your mind, if it tells you that you are something, you really aren't, it is just a chemical aberration in your mind
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- 23w
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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I cant do anything anymore without my brain dregdging up proof from my past that I was actually trans and didn't know it, and it all seems so plausible. like I said in my last post its unearthing memories that I didn't even know I have. ik this is just ocd tricking me but I feel like I need to review every moment thoroughly bc I have questioned my gender in the past but always concluded that'd I'd happier as a girl (which is true). everything feels so real and it feels like I am just super in denial. also, how do I tell people about this? I made the mistake of confessing to a teacher on a note and only a couple friends of mine understand the thoughts I get, but I don't tell them everything. however its very hard for me to do basic responsibilities like school work and I always end up overwhelmed, so I'm thinking I may need accomdations. I need to get in touch with my counselor but i'm unsure how to explain all of this to her, being that I don't have a diagnosis....also I feel like I can't talk about this with the majority of my friends because gender ocd is rare to have (increasing my doubts) and, at least school-wise, i'm in very accepting environment for lgbtq and I'm afraid they're just gonna tell me to accept myself. I'm scared of doing erp for this because what if I like it (also cant afford therapy). ive also felt very apprehensive around some of my trans friends and classmates because my brain is going crazy asking "what if you're like them?" and I feel so bad and transphobic for these thoughts. i'm genuinely so tired. one of my closest friends died last year, but my father pointed out that my recent mood has been even worse than it was during that time. i tend to bottle up my emotions a lot, so everyone's just telling me to "let it go" and tell people, but if I do that I feel like i'll end up confessing. i'm so tired and lost.
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