i feel like i am bi and just okay with it. it doesn't even panic me anymore, nor does the fact that i am not panicked disturb me either.

thanks for this. everyone else is congratulating me on finally accepting myself :(

@BlueMountain i have been ignoring them for so long and i have been feeling so good. i still get some thoughts and i ignore them, but i still have that lingering feeling that i am truly bi and it's not making me panic. i just ignore it but wouldn't that mean i am in denial?

@BlueMountain but why do i still feel bi and like this isn't ocd????

@BlueMountain i have been ignoring it but this doesn't feel like oce anymore :( do you think it may be?

@BlueMountain thank you!!!! i really hope this is OCD!

@BlueMountain even if i am not diagnosed?

@BlueMountain i just read something that should have been triggering but i didn't react like at all. no anxiety. is this good or bad?

@BlueMountain thank you so much for all the support!!!

i don't even know anymore. i just really feel bi. why is it not making me panic????

@Nour04 how is it a happy post? i don't think i have hocd anymore . i just feel like i am bi and it doesn't scare me aanymore. why???

@Nour04 You might be burned out and numb from ruminating so hard. There’s only so much energy your brain has and you’ve probably used it up. I’ve seen you a lot on here. Im not trying to be mean but you really gotta stop trying to get reassurance on here, it is making your OCD worse not better.

I DON'T WANT TO BE BII!!!!

@Nour04 Omg, that must be scary

@epic_medic dude wtf i want to be straight i am i just have hocd (i think) but it feels real

Go date guys then

@Erebus do you even understand what i am saying or what i'm going through?

@Nour04 So is this another “I don’t think I have OCD, I don’t want to be bi” post? Go get help, we don’t know if you have OCD you haven’t been diagnosed. How are we supposed to help you if you don’t help yourself

@Erebus why are you so mean?

@Nour04 The truth hurts. As a member of the community I’ve given you advice countless of times with other people. Anybody on this app can give you similar stories to help reassure you you’re straight. That’s all it is reassurance. And then when it doesn’t feel like OCD you come back here so people can reassure you again. Which is fine and by all means do so if you don’t feel like getting better, but you said it yourself you haven’t seen a specialist. How do we even know it’s OCD? Self diagnosis is not a diagnosis. When are you taking the step and helping yourself so you can have peace and tools.

@Erebus Even if the truth hurts, you don’t have to be so bluntly mean. I have been diagnosed with ocd, and some people are in situations where they physically cannot go and get diagnosed. Lack of healthcare insurance, lack of therapist in area, teenagers w/ parents who don’t believe in therapy & mental health issues, etc. we’re fortunate enough to have been diagnosed. Sometimes people are literally stuck and cannot get the diagnosis they need. Even then, OCD is not easy to diagnose. I’ve had it since i was seven, but since it was portrayed in the media as cleanliness, I wasn’t diagnosed until i was 15. Encouraging her to get help is great! Being truthful is great! People w/ ocd require a lot of patience becauee it’s obsessive, and a none ending spiral (as i’m sure you know). But you don’t need to reinforce thoughts, & tell her to go out and do something she obviously doesn’t want to. not dating and avoiding intimacy w/ anyone can be a compulsion in itself. It’s an avoidance compulsion, actually one of mine (I have SO-OCD). I didn’t even know until my ocd specialist told me. Atop that, ocd kills libido and interest in anything once enjoyable. It’s called reactance, if you’re scared to feel something you’ll begin feeling it. So please, when being truthfully honest it doesn’t have to hurt. Someone who mentally abused me my entire life used that phrase, and it was so unecessary.

@hate_ocd.123 I refuse to provide any more reassurance to her. If you guys want to keep reassuring her when she’s not diagnosed with OCD by all means go ahead. Even if she did have OCD you guys aren’t helping her by reassuring her. You know perfectly well how OCD works. Reassurance is never the answer. We should be encouraging her to tell her parents to get their priorities straight and have her see a specialist because nearly every day it’s a “this doesn’t feel like OCD, why am I not panicking or having anxiety” after being reassured it’s SO-OCD by countless individuals. Has she read any literature I’ve recommended to her? Is she listening to OCD podcasts? Does she have a counselor at school or a relationship with her mother that she can confide about these thoughts that don’t align with her values? Is this something we are going to deal with on an everyday basis until she’s 18 and can seek help by herself? I think we can do better than reassurance and stop her doubting herself everyday. What can Nour do that will get her on a road to recovery?

@Erebus Where in that did i reassure her?? And educating one on their compulsions is helping, not reassurance. And i’ve told her multiple times her reassurance seeking isn’t good. But sometimes you literally have the URGE to compulse and it’s so hard to resist. Some people harder than others. You should know this. And actually, some parents dont listen to their children. I had to wait until i was almost 19 (i am now) and working to start ocd therapy. My parents refused to believe i had ocd for YEARS. They believed everything, except ocd. So yes, parents are a lot harder to explain things to when this type of ocd isn’t universally represented properly. So Right now, her best bet is us and the people she can confide in. I didn’t open up about my hocd / ocd too people until this year. We don’t have to provide her reassurance, but we can support her. Being rude doesn’t help. I get the “tough love” type thing, but that isn’t going to help this situation. And sometimes, people aren’t comfortable doing erp or therapy by themselves because it CAN MAKE IT WORSE. I refused to go to an actual therapist or do erp myself because of this. So yes, this may be something we can help her through until she’s 18.

@hate_ocd.123 The reassurance is directed in general to everyone who has partaken in her compulsions and has given her reassurance. She doesn’t like sitting with uncertainty. Who’s being rude??? I am doing the opposite of what she or her OCD wants us to do. I’m giving her concrete advice to live life in accordance with her values. It’s possible she’s Bisexual but she can date boys/men and see that reality is not equal to her ego-dystonic thoughts. She can fight back at OCD and live the life she dreams of living. Nour, you don’t need to feel the whoosh, fear, anxiety, or panic with thoughts to validate that you have OCD. And if you’re bisexual God Bless you, date what you want.

@Erebus If she does have OCD then that makes reassurance worse. The only way to get better is to stop seeking reassurance. It’s hard of course but reassurance seeking defeats the whole purpose of this app.

@cheyras Exactly my point. Thank you.