I'm bisexual which makes my relationship/SO orientation OCD so much worse, cos I'm with a guy who is the love of my life, but my attraction to women makes me feel like I 'shouldn't' be with him, need to leave or will leave to be with a woman, even though we are happy, healthy and content. It's so debilitating and I'd love to know how others cope :(

I really found that talking through my thoughts with my partner and looking at OCD material together helped us both. What we're experiencing is so textbook, we're not alone! I found a couple of good articles about being bisexual and having OCD too online, though I'm not sure if this is reassurance seeking.

Thank you so much, this is really, really appreciated. Have you experienced similar? He also knows about all of this and I even showed him this thread! It's been hard being open about it, but I'd definitely say it feels less awful when spoken aloud. I am starting therapy again soon, but it's so hard in the interim. Great advice to think of it that way though! :)

I'm so sorry to hear that. I am hoping that you can work on it or grow towards it in future. It does help to feel less alone in this, so I appreciate your comments so much.

If you ever need to chat more I am more than happy to!

I understand about being in a state!! I do think intimacy is salvageable though. And it's probably your OCD trying to make you feel that you 'don't like' men. Which is a very generalised statement as it is.