Hi everyone, could someone give me some honest advice? Not looking for any reassurance, I just want someone's opinion on how to handle this. So my aunt has kinda become really involved with my mental health, she's kinda taken on the spot of my mom. She's been incredibly snappy and a little rude with only me for a bit now and I'm not sure why. She's been treating me like I can't be left alone and like everything I do is because of my OCD. Shes also over critical. Like just now I explained to her that I do not have the energy to drive over to the pool and hang out because today I worked, went straight to my Nana's house, then straight to therapy and I have barely had a chance to breathe. And I have plans later from 8-10. I felt the guilt coming on for not going but it's mainly her reaction.... I guess what I'm asking is how do you set better boundaries in a situation like this? Hope I explained everything okay, thanks y'all 😊💗

My guess is she doesn't understand OCD and is afraid. What you described is exactly how I get when I'm stressed and overwhelmed. I would let her know that how she has been treating yourts hurts your feelings and you aren't going to put with it. But also encourage her to ask questions about your OCD. But the sad truth is some people simply can't handle it when someone they love struggles with a mental health issue. Some are willing to educate themselves and some aren't. I would also let your aunt know that for right now, you need to make your mental health your top priority. A friend who struggles with her mental health told me this "The first rule of mental health. Learn to distinguish who deserves an explanation, who deserves one answer, and who deserves absolutely nothing"

I'm just going to write my initial thoughts after reading this :) Sometimes people can become a little condescending when knowing about someone's mental health issues, and make everything about their 'vulnerabilities'. She's probably a very nice person in general though :) But making it clear that you still have self-confidence and believe in yourself will go a long way. :) Also there's no reason for her to make you feel bad about something so insignificant. You need to find a balance between being that sweet "trying to make everyone happy" girl and someone who sets boundaries for herself. (I'm not good with this one either!) Being kind shouldn't equal getting disrespected. :) (if parts of this doesn't make sense, it's because I'm sooo tired😂😴🌙) Ps: (about your respons to Lms526) I think you could be right about her acting this way because of stress and frustration in her own life.🤷‍♀️)