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i understand the fear! but there is a difference between actively forcing someone to watch something against their will and you watching a show while your sis voiced discomfort in the background but didn't specify what she wanted you to do exactly (i.e. turn off the show, change the program, etc.) ocd likes to think in extremes and fixate on situations we wish could have gone differently so we gotta remind ourselves to be realistic and accept these experiences as part of growing. take care!
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I mean I kinda want to but I’m also panicking cuz I can’t remember if she said to change the channel or not . I’d also watch it during her turn by being like “he’s the devil it’s a cool show “ or something like that till she’s like “ugh fine!”
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@lucy.wilefirr When that happened , I was treating her like a normal girl when I shouldn’t have . She just has difficulty controlling emotions and mimicks whatever I say for approval . But back then it didn’t occur to me that she may not have had a choice
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@lucy.wilefirr I’m just really freaked that I abused her !!!!
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@lucy.wilefirr ah i see i see- do you know how she feels about those times nowadays? i know that would probably be considered compulsory reassurance seeking but if she isn't really bothered or doesn't even remember you shouldn't be too hard on yourself :o after all, you didn't know how to best treat her at the time.
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@draw2cope Idk how she feels about that . She seemed pissed off and annoyed more than anything. I’m really scared it was sexual abuse though. And if it’s sexual abuse then it wouldn’t matter if she remembers it. I looked up criteria for sexual abuse and forcing kids to listen to sexual talk is sexual abuse and I’m really scared that’s what happened
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@lucy.wilefirr hmmm well i don't believe so 🤔🤔 i'm a survivor of child sexual abuse myself and there's specific criteria that needs to be met for it to be considered abuse by law
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@draw2cope Yeah the article was vague . I have a tendency to interpret stuff to the extreme . Like I remember I read another sexual abuse article saying looking behaviour between children in a 3 year age gap is child sexual abuse . I’m 17 and I remember glancing at a 14 year old and thinking they were attractive (they looked older ) and my brain was like “oh you abused them “
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@lucy.wilefirr oh goodness- i wonder how credible that article is because that does not sound grounded in reality at all 😭😭 but i understand the struggle!
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@draw2cope I think it was referring to leering at a child but I misunderstood it ? That’s probably what happened here too. Idk . I’m just horrified at the prospect of being a sexual abuser
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@lucy.wilefirr ahhh yeah it would make more sense if they meant it in a "peeping Tom" sense, but just observing someone not much younger than you and finding them attractive isn't abusive no :o i totally get where you're coming from though because i struggle with the same theme 😔✊
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Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared
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TW Just saw a judge video where a girl was complaining about a mom suing her for money when her mom is her agent and gives her younger sister (at 17 years old) better work because they exploit her body and THEY SHOWED PICTURES. I saw it and was like “oh my gosh is that actually what I think it is?” Then after realizing it’s like I was too shocked to look away. What is bothersome is that I wasn’t immediately repulsed enough to turn it off and didn’t immediately do so and when the picture kept showing up it’s like I kept looking at it to make sure what I saw was actually what I saw. Also, the false memory is hitting hard because now I’m wondering if I had intrusive thoughts judging her body. Now I feel like a perv and pedo 😭 It’s like I’m anxious over not being anxious enough about the situation while actually being incredibly anxious. I don’t if that made ANY sense but someone please help. I will say my mind was already incredibly vulnerable because of burnout and other very stressful events recently. Still, I feel terrible and feel I deserve to be in jail.
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I’m getting gronial responses by listening to an ancient Egyptian podcasts I love ancient history I was listening to one and they were talking about how he got married at such an early age and his wife was around 12 and my head is just hoping for him to say something inappropriate about them and immediately thought that if I wanted to listen to it that meant I was listening to cp and I got gronial responses and I just speed the podcast I had to take my head phones and lay down or eat a chocolate bar because the gronials it’s annoying I can’t even listen to music or do anything with my head phones on Then yesterday I was thinking did I touch my brother? Because when I was laying down I was thinking if I would get disgusted by touching his area it was just a thought because I don’t remember standing up and actually doing it but it’s like I feel like I did
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