anonymousN
- Date posted
- 3y ago
CesarCesar
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Ocd will have you focus on things that trigger you because your brain is determined to falsely keep you safe, depending on what your theme is, your brain will try to find it, it may be even when you least expect it, understand one thing, you have ocd, ocd is a liar and does not define you nor does it tell you who you are. If I was to tell you to go drink water right now would you do it? The answer should be no. I am not you nor do I tell you what to do, ocd is the same, ocd is not you nor should it tell you what to do. Therapy will help you find yourself again and use your values to start making decisions again. Your gender is not defined by what people say nor what you hear nowadays, that is a bigger topic to discuss but please seek therapy. Don't be afraid, you're never alone.
GiftyoyGiftyoy
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I really need help on this too I'm obsessed about d small size of my bathroom coz deres a toilet in it too so I get irritated at the tot so boom! One day a tot came up that this is not a bathroom but a toilet so I even felt more irritated that I am bathing in a small bathroom which I now see as toilet . Coz of this I repeatedly open my bathroom door to analyse the tot I can open my bathroom door 20 times a day this tot ibeen in my head for like 3months now.
CesarCesar
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Giftyoy Seek help, don't be afraid to ask for help
anonymousNanonymousN
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you that really helps . I try to remind myself of this but sometimes I get so scared that I have changed forever . I am in therapy I just started I hope I see the light at the end of the tunnel soon
LovelyNightLovelyNight
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I feel like social media is the biggest reason for this. It absolutely causes many people to be more confused if they weren't already. I'm a grown woman but if I were younger, I might also be pulled into that. Gender isn't a malleable thing, it's just biology and the problem I see is from childhood girls and boys are expected to behave and look a certain way that leads to even more confusion because not all girls have a preference for the color pink, play with dolls and enjoy wearing dresses. Tom Boys almost stopped existing lately but when I was younger even in my teen years, I was a tomboy because I didn't fit the gender stereotype of a girl but now you're told if you don't that you might be another gender which is quite scary and makes many vacillate between thoughts of what gender they are and mental health issues worsen this complicated dance of thoughts.
anonymousNanonymousN
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is true , I always liked the girly stuff and I still do idk why but ocd tells me I hate it even though that’s what made me happy before
girlanongirlanon
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@anonymousN While I personally disagree that gender is biology I see your main point. I literally despise my body now.
mari01mari01
- Date posted
- 3y ago
We live in a gender and self identity obsessed culture, this stuff is naturally triggering. Social media doesn’t help either.
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- 3y ago
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anonymousNanonymousN
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Everytime I feel like I know it just convinces me I don’t and it messes with my identity so bad
Imaan7Imaan7
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Same except with hocd, my whole perception of man and woman has changed and its honestly caused me immense pain
CesarCesar
- Date posted
- 3y ago
What did your values tell you about men and women before ocd?
Imaan7Imaan7
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@NOCD Advocate - Cesar O. Well my memory has become bad so I cant remmeber how I used to think before but I only looked at women as partners. I also didnt think about sexuality at all before but after hocd, so much rumination and learning about sexuality, intrusive thoughts( If thats what they are), I understand that its ok if someone likes the same sex but thats causing me confusion, so anytime I look at a guy or talk to them It feels like I could also like them the same way I liked girls. It bascially shifted my perception of typical Man-Woman and how I viewed both genders to se degree. Hope that made some sense?
CesarCesar
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Imaan7 Have you been to a therapist or talked about it with anyone?
Imaan7Imaan7
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@NOCD Advocate - Cesar O. No, but I opened up to my family last night after dealing with this for year and a half. They would support therapy but what do you think? Does that sound like ocd at all? Thats just one of the big thought process that I got after ocd
CesarCesar
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Imaan7 That's good I'm glad you spoke to your family and I'm glad they support therapy. The sad thing is that this ocd is called the doubting disease which means that even if I say yes it's ocd, some times after you will doubt my answer and will start questioning these thoughts. This is what ocd is like. My dear brother God loves you as you are, put yourself in His hands let Him guide you through recovery. Have faith. No matter what your preference is sexually it doesn't not rule your life. There's so much beauty and meaning in life than just who turns you on. Sexual attraction is still not completely studied nor understood but even then it should not be the focus of your life. Attraction shouldn't bring you disgust nor anxiety it should bring you joy and good emotions. If you are anxious by thought of liking a gender you're not sure of then it mean you're not attracted at all. Ocd is lying to you. Seek therapy trust your Heavenly Father. He loves you. God bless
girlanongirlanon
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes. This. I think I'm trans now, I think maybe I always have been, I think I'll never be able to go back, if there was even a back to go to.
Imaan7Imaan7
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hey I relate to what you said in your profile, Im having a hard time remembering my past self. I have a feeling like I was always gay just didnt notice it. Cant really remember how I used to think back then, memorys real hazy
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i understand—seeing all these new words and concepts can be very stressful to understand and digest. i think it's important to remember that someone else's mode of identity is their own and your identity is yours alone to describe as well. if you feel like you're happy with how you identify now, that's cool! and if you happen to change your mind sometime down the line, that's a-okay too. don't be pressured to identify as something you're not comfortable with. all of these new concepts are really just meant for people who didn't feel like traditional gender roles and perceptions of sexuality fit them personally. questioning shouldn't be a distressing experience honestly—it should be an enlightening one! don't force yourself to question if it's only hurting you, just be yourself and vibe ✨
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Ellie.
- Date posted
- 13w ago
I’m begging ANYONE help I can’t take it anymore!!
I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
Megan Ruth
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 12w ago
Is anyone else freaking out because of politics?
PLEASE do not argue over political stances in this post that is not what this is for at all. For context I consider myself someone with mixed views (politically homeless) and I am connected with people of all stripes and beliefs and stances. After the inauguration in the USA this weekend there has been an overwhelming response from the populace especially online. I feel like I’m completely surrounded by people (on every “side”) who are making very intense and unyielding statements about other people’s morals and values and “good-“ or “bad-ness” based on their beliefs, opinions, responses or non responses to all the different things going on politically. I feel like it’s driving me insane. My head has been spinning constantly and I can’t stop crying. I feel like I’m drowning and cornered and under a police interrogation light. I’m so terrified of saying or doing or thinking or not thinking the “wrong” thing, I’m feeling my heart being torn in so many directions and I’m struggling to stop ruminating and spiraling over feeling like I don’t belong anywhere and no matter what I’m always going to be evil to someone. This is not me taking a side or revealing what I think, or trying to make an implied judgment or comment on ANY political figure, policy, etc….My point is: the issue I’m having is with the way people are talking about these issues and about other people in the midst of these issues, so black and white, so moralistic, and my OCD is having a field day. Just looking for camaraderie and to know I’m not alone in this. I please ask again do not bring up specific political issues or take stances in the comments. Thank you.
Elliesmith
- Date posted
- 6w ago
Question
So with my theme of ocd, ( hocd ) I get persistent intrusive images, and thoughts. It’s not like one or two a day. Like if I’m out for the whole day they’re constant. I feel I can’t even look at a girl now without her intrusive thoughts about her or about me fancying her and even sexual intrusive thoughts.. It’s awful. It’s everywhere I look. Is this common with ocd with any themes? Like is it constant for you guys too?
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