Has anyone else made you feel like you shouldn’t be questioning things and that you should just “know” :(

Hello amazing people. Does anyone else struggle with knowing what your ‘gut’ feeling/instinct is? For example, if I choose to ignore the thoughts I start doubting that I’m ignoring my intuition and I’m going to end up unhappy. I don’t know if this makes sense, but if anyone has any tips that would be amazing!

Why does ocd make you feel uncertain about everything. Even the things you knew were 100% certain before. Its so bizarre. All the subtypes like Rocd, Pocd, Hocd you should be 100% certain about these things but ocd makes you feel like you dont know. I sit here know saying in my head I DONT KNOW. its so hard and confusing. I just want to know who I am. Am I a good person like I thought I was and have been my whole life or am I someone else. I just dont know. Its awful

Yesterday something happened with my partner and I can’t stop thinking about it, even though it’s technically “resolved.” We were listening to music and he was singing along to a song that had the word “hoes” in it (like in the offensive way, referring to women). I told him that I didn’t like him singing that part. He first said that the word wasn’t even in the song. We rewound it – and it was in there. What triggered me wasn’t even the lyric itself, but his reaction. When I said something like “Oh, I must’ve misheard,” he didn’t say anything. No “Yeah, maybe” or “Oh no, you were right” – just silence. That moment really stuck with me. To me, it felt like he knew it was in the song but didn’t want to admit it. I also doubt his honesty because of that silence. It’s like my brain says: “If he were being honest, he would’ve just confirmed it.” Later on, he explained that he didn’t really notice what he was singing, and he hadn’t been paying attention to that part. So technically, we talked about it. But my brain won’t let go of that one moment where he stayed silent. Now I feel this strong urge to bring it up again, just to “make sure” nothing was hidden or dishonest – but I don’t want to, because I’ve already brought up similar things before and I know it’s hard on him. I feel stuck between: “Something’s off, you should talk about it again.” and “It’s your OCD, let it go.” Does this sound like ROCD to you? Or is it reasonable to be upset about this? Has anyone experienced something like this – where a small moment of silence or weird reaction makes your brain spiral?