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- 3y
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- 3y
Simple answer is yes, I believe anxiety that is screaming for attention is just part of the process. You can do it!
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- 3y
It is so hard!!!! . I wanna cry.
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- 3y
I know, I'm also going through a rough patch but it's good that you're fighting it!
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- 3y
I'm sorry your struggling. This is very difficult to deal with.
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- 3y
Thanks, yeah it really is
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 3y
Is it anxiety or is it ocd? You asked are you doing it right. "Right" sounds like ocd, it keeps screaming at you sounds like ocd. So my opinion would be to acknowledge it, then observe does it need something from me... like am I tried, hungry or thirsty, etc.. if it's something like that give it what it needs... go eat, rest, etc... if not and you are also feeling the need to do a compulsion. Then call it what it is, this is OCD and it's saying "blank blank blank" then return to what you are doing... let the anxiety rise and fall. Don't keep going back to it but if you catch yourself wrapped back up in it then just return to your work.
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- 3y
A couple of things. First. It sounds like you are asking for reassurance. That is a compulsion. OCD is going to fight back and play dirty. Its not unusual when you first start doing ERP for the intrusive thoughts to increase. When an intrusive though comes acknowledge its there then ignore it. Dont try to argue or reason with it. Dont try to prove the thought isn't true. Believe me, I know it isn't easy. But it can be done. Think of OCD like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum. The more you react, the longer it will continue to cry. If a toddler sees their tantrum is going to get them what they want, eventually they will stop. The same is true for OCD. I saw another post where someone used that analogy and its a good one.
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 16w
What's a piece of advice you give when someone has constantly intrusive thoughts and ruminations that won't stop? Interested to see what you tell others.....more on this when I see some replies!!!
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 15w
Here is what I say to people: I wish I could make it stop. I really do. I also wish I could stop tinnitus. What is tinnitus, you may ask? Well, have you ever gone to a loud concert and after it had a ringing in your ears. Or, in movies when a loud explosion hears, first it is often muffled, and then there is a very loud ringing sound. Well, I have hear that sound for over 30 years. Turns out the medications I took as a kid for allergies and all the antibiotics I was on for Strep had a side effect for some people - tinnitus - that sound that I have heard every decade, year, month, day, hour, and second, for the past 30 years. I have learned to live with it. As I type this, it is REALLY loud, because I am paying attention to it. But, in a few minutes it will fade into the background, and, while I will hear it, I will not pay much attention to it, and therefore I will go on with my night. I will listen to music, practice my story for the MOTH radio hour, and work out. I will clean up the kitchen and load the dishwasher, and I will eventually get ready for bed. I will go to bed hearing that sound, and fall asleep for a few hours until tomorrow morning when I start the day all over again. I cannot make the sound stop. There is nothing to do for it - no surgery or medication. Just learning to live with it, and that is what I have done. It is the thing that I hate the most in my life, and, if granted three wishes, it would be the first thing to change. For now, as I have for 30 years, I will live with it, and I will ask you to live with your noises in your head - the thoughts, the images, and the urges, and we will practice together accepting that things are not always as we want them, but we can handle that. We got this.
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- 7w
For a while now, I've been having trouble concentrating... especially when studying... so I'd play the sound of rain or a forest or something similar to distract myself, and when I'd finish and turn it off... a pile of thoughts would come back to me as if they'd piled up on me!!! Anxiety, rituals... what should I do?
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