How do you deal with “flooding” during intimacy with your wife or partner. This disorder is absolutely horrible it’s hard to even relax in my own home.

I treat it as an exposure. Yeah I have the thoughts, but I continue to do it anyways.

Im interpreting “flooding” as meaning a flood of emotions? Particularly negative/anxiety provoking ones? Look into the practice of Tantric sex. Idea behind that is to use physical intimacy as sort of a form of mindfulness practice where you simply focus on bodily sensations without judging them and without really having a “goal,” just being with whatever surfaces. That may help. There are lots of books about it. Find one with good reviews.

what is flooding if you don’t mind my asking

What does it mean?

Like when your trying to be sexual with your partner and intrusive unwanted sexual thoughts pour in. It’s about impossible for me to be intimate its miserable