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Yes this happens to me with rocd and soocd. Its ocd guiltily you just remember that <3 you aren't undeserving of your partners affection, ocd just likes to make us feel guilty Also I love your username 💜
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Thank you for saying this, I feel so guilty and like I should break up with him because he deserves better. It absolutely breaks my heart. I’m in so much pain 💔 not sure how to help this, but I start ERP this week and really hope that hat helps me get through this. Thank you again for your support! And I love Liz Lemon! Haha
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Ocd is notorious for making us feel guilty. Best thing to do is notice that, remember how strong you are, and remind yourself you are worthy, no matter how much you're struggling with your obsession. No matter what, don't do what ocd tells you you "must" do if you can avoid it. It's not simple to stop compulsions but that's great you're starting erp, you will learn how to resist them.
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@Whatabtme Also yes I love liz lemon I rewatch 30 rock over and over 😆
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@Whatabtme Thank you ❤️ I really am doing my best to not give in to it, it’s just incredibly difficult at the moment as I’m trying to unravel 15+ years of undiagnosed ROCD. It seems to be my MO within relationships (which is why I’ve typically stayed away from them) but I finally got one that I thought…. I can’t let this one go, but I am tortured by these thoughts and the relentless need to have compulsions. Thank you so much for listening and lending me advice!!! I’m very much looking forward to starting ERP and weakening the need to respond to or attach to the thoughts. Thank you again
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@LizLemon Of course! Good luck <3
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For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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Really struggling today so far. I have partner-focused ROCD so I’m constantly picking apart my partner and looking for warning signs that he doesn’t love me enough and doesn’t want to be with me or care for me. Valentine’s Day is really hard for me because it’s not a huge holiday for the two of us but of course my ROCD takes it and runs with it. It tells me that he doesn’t love me, things won’t get better, he doesn’t care, he’s lazy, he’s the worst boyfriend, etc. This sucks so much because I just want to accept the fact that my brain wants to tell me these things…it is just so hard!!! :(
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Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
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