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I completely related to this when I was your age! It felt like everyone was having sex and was extremely sexual, and I just had NO interest. In fact, I was terrified of having sex and getting pregnant. It feels weird, but it’s toxic to compare yourself to the others around you. It’s so easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you. But I didn’t have sex until I was ready and it was nothing to be afraid of. And looking back, I’m so glad I waited until I was ready and with the right person, because being scared and just trying to get it over with would’ve made it worse, I’m sure of that. I questioned my sexuality, considered asexuality even, and it just made the overthinking worse and I eventually realized that there really isn’t anything wrong with me. But because everyone around me was sexually active and I wasn’t interested, my anxiety made me feel like there was something wrong with me. I’ve learned to just go with the flow. You’ll find someone and be comfortable with them :) Keep your chin up!!
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I felt exactly this way at 22 and still do to some degree at 25. I’m in a relationship now though and am slowly feeling more and more ready with time. I’m in no hurry and I appreciate that about myself now, at least now that the fear part of it isn’t as strong.
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Nah you don’t because I have a similar issue and I can’t really describe it.
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yeah it’s hard to describe. like today, one of my best friends told me that she lost her virginity and now i just have this like weird..sinking..anxiety feeling in my chest…that’s the best way i can describe it. im just wondering how it can come so naturally to people??
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Might be because of how you were (or were not) educated about sex at a young age. If adults portrayed it as scary, wrong, or left you to your own interpretation, then it may leave you with these feelings towards it.
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YES I FELT THAT EXACT SAME WAY! Wow thank you everyone, I don’t feel as crazy now. I was sheltered growing up and I think that contributed to my fear of sex- I also believe that was due to a lack of touch/physical affection growing up. Hugs were given but not often you know?
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yeah it can def happen!! i believe the term is "sex-repulsed"? i've had similar struggles (tho my trauma was sexual in nature) ur def not alone!! :0
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Sort of a rant that probably sounds stupid and I’m kind of seeking reassurance… I’m still a relatively young teenager so I know I’ve got time to work all this out but I’m really confused about my sexuality. (I’m a girl) I’ve never been in a relationship (I don’t know if I want to be which is why I’m writing this) and sometimes I feel like I’ve never really had a crush and I just convinced myself that I did because I wanted to feel normal… but then maybe that’s false memory ocd??? I don’t really want to be in a long term relationship with a guy and idk about girls but idk if that’s just cos of my age??? Some days I hate the idea of ever dating, marrying or doing anything sexual. Other days I wish my mental / physical health was better so I could date someone! Everything I feel goes up and down a lot and idk why!? I have bad sexual intrusive thoughts that make me unsure whether anything that I think is real and my parents recently split up after not getting along for a few years. I don’t know if it’s my age, my ocd, my parents bad relationship, my sexuality (am I attracted to guys, girls? Am I ace!!!!???) Or something else but I have no idea who I am and I KNOW I’m young and have time but some other perspectives might help???? Can I ever be in a relationship if I have ocd like this? Also I’m really struggling not to compulsively seek reassurance and I don’t know who to talk to about all this irl I know I probably shouldn’t share this with random strangers but also idek if I care anymore 😭
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At this point of my life I barely have compulsions, barely let them control me, but recently I have realised my OCD is still keeping itself alive by holding me back and making me avoid stuff since I cut compulsions. So I don’t do compulsions but I avoid. And when it comes to SO OCD, I avoid dating. I am in the age where it’s the most common thing to do, I have friends who are getting married and I still haven’t seriously dated my entire life. If I date I date to marry. But it’s making it even harder. My brain tells me I can’t date to marry or date at all because no man will accept the possibility that I am bisexual or the fact I might have intrusive thoughts over sexuality. Worse than that, what’s actually holding me back is the fact that in one of our dates I know I’ll have to bring this up. And what if the man will start to get stressed over it? What if it’ll be too much for him and he’ll leave? And worse-tell the people that know both me and him all the personal things I told him about me having SO OCD? I can’t do this.. I don’t want to do this to myself I don’t want to let go of this secret to any man who can just leave me because of it at any point.. that’s what’s holding me back from dating.. and I want to be brave, I want to just go for it, I want to let it go but am too afraid I am just selling myself and my darkest secrets out there for men who can cancel me at any moment. I gave up on dating… it’s all too complicated for me and I have this voice in the back of my head telling me maybe I wasn’t born for it. Maybe I wasn’t born to get married or be in a relationship, maybe I am not good enough for all of this.. and then OCD adds its own stuff.. maybe I am gay and dating would be lying to myself and the men I date.. too much responsibility..
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i need some kind words or maybe some advice? basically i went through trauma as a kid including sexual, and acted out in disturbing ways. I’ve done things i regret. even as an early teenager i did also. the only weird things ive done recently were compulsions and weird ocd driven stuff… but besides that ive found it easy to forgive myself for a lot of stuff because i know myself and my intentions and also talking to people helps. but one thing that’s hard is when im intimate with others or in a relationship. i feel so gross and undeserving like if they knew everything ive done in my life they would hate me. I don’t tell everyone everything, i think i only did that with therapists and like one family member. I feel like if I don’t tell someone everything I’ve done that I regret and see if they forgive me for it, then that means im “hiding” something about me and being malicious. anything helps :(
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