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That’s normal for ocd to trick you to think you like it
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That anxiety did nothing to help you, but you seem to still want it around. I get it, but you need to remember that it sucked and if you’re feeling better after doing this exposure of wearing black nail polish, that is progress. But you seem to be seeking reassurance right now and trying to undo the progress you’ve made with compulsions. Maybe there’s no way to know what your sexual orientation is right now. It’s okay. Life isn’t all about sex and attraction, and you can still be happy not knowing what your orientation is. You can just take this moment to let the question lie and appreciate your surroundings. Maybe go for a walk. If it’s really that important of a question, it will still be there for you when you get back.
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there's like so many "proof" from my childhood, yet i am ignoring them and choosing not to ruminate or give them meaning. is that denial?
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@Lilyrosalynd No one can answer that question for you and you are not in a position to answer it right now. Just let it lie. Sit with the uncertainty. Don’t try to prove anything.
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@CaptainKierkegaard but if it were ocd i wouldn't be able to just not ruminate over it like i am now doing, right? :(
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@Lilyrosalynd Well, for one, the fact that you have OCD over your sexual orientation doesn’t tell you what your sexual orientation is. You don’t acheive security by indulging your OCD so much that you know it’s OCD and not your actual sexual orientation. You could still be anywhere on the sexual orientation spectrum (if it’s even a valid way of classifying sexuality). As an example, think about a different type of OCD: just because someone fears that they will be contaminated by dog saliva as an obsession doesn’t mean they cannot be contaminated with dog saliva or that they never will be contaminated. In order to recover from their OCD, they need not believe that they can never be contaminated, because that’s impossible and also delusional. Instead, they learn to sit with the uncertainty. The same thing applies to SOOCD. It is possible you are gay even if your obsession is that you fear you are gay just like it’s possible to be contaminated even if your obsession is that you fear being contaminated. You also may be straight. Don’t answer the question while you’re in this state of checking and looking for reassurance. Just leave it alone. Let yourself be uncertain. Secondly, you are hella ruminating rn. Or at least you are trying to use this community to check or get reassurance which are compulsions. I can’t know what’s really going on in your head, but your comments make it seem like you are going through an episode. This does not mean you aren’t (or are) gay. It means you need to take care of your mental health. That is more important than knowing your sexuality.
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- 3y
@Lilyrosalynd Choosing not to ruminate is not denial, that is what recovery looks like. What you are experiencing is common and is known as the “back door spike.” You’ve been so panicked for so long that now that that’s gone it’s hard to know what to think.
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- 20w
it feels like i accepted being gay and thats part of who i am but i still feel that tension and fake attraction whenever i see a man and i feel like i could be able to have a sexual intercourse with a man even though i dont want it is it still hocd or just denial? like i am feeling okey but there is still that doubt that how can i know that im not gay if i dont get disgusted by gay things or gay personality traits and at the same time i want to feel normal again like before
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I had a bad rumination spiral yesterday and went to bed hoping I’d start over in the morning. I was wrong. I had dreams about liking women and not being attracted to men anymore and my entire body has been in a state of anxiety since. I genuinely feel like I’m gay and just need to accept it. I have this urge to accept it. Maybe if I do I’ll get some sort of relief because this feeling is awful. I feel like my brain is telling me that I’ll get relief if I just accept it and come out. The intrusive thoughts don’t even seem to be around sexual images anymore, just to come out.
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- 16w
im so scared that this is just denial and that im actuall gay. idk what to do anymore i need help. its just constant anxiety in my chest and i hate it. is there anything i can do to help?
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