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Animaniash
16d ago
  • "Pure" OCD
  • Relationship OCD

Does someone have the compulsion to "confess" their obsessions to a certain person? Cause every time I get an obsessive thought, I get the urge immediately after to tell my boyfriend what I thought, since we both agreed to not keep secrets from one another. For example, if I saw a gross picture on Instagram, or had a dream of me dating someone else, I felt like something terrible would happen if I didn't tell him what I saw. So I always have to tell him my bad thoughts I get or my anxiety takes me over, which it eventually does later anyway since it's a compulsion and only gives temporary relief. Even if my brain knows the thought I'm having will hurt his feelings sometimes, I'm still extremely urged by Ocd to tell him or I feel like a liar or fake or untrusting girlfriend. Then when I do tell him I feel better for a second until his feelings are hurt because of my stupid compulsion and then anxiety about what he thinks of me comes soon after 😭

Saraa_fitz
16d ago
I am the exact same
avethom24
16d ago
Every time I have an obsessive thought I call my boyfriend. I'm in the same boat
dumbaby
16d ago
i am the exact same way, but I've learned to tone it down. when he and i first started dating, it hit super hard - i confessed to so many things, and his responses were always the same: "i don't love you any less, you're a good person," things like that. but whenever a new obsession would come up, my brain would tell me "this time is different, he's gonna hate you, you have to tell him so he knows what a monster you are". but of course it was never any different. you do not have to tell your significant other every single obsession. that in and of itself will become an obsession.
Animaniash
16d ago
That's what he says to me too 😭 I tell him something and he's like "it's ok! I love you and always will! I will never stop loving you no matter what happens!" Then I feel better when I'm with him. Then the second he leaves to his house, I'm left alone with my thoughts and feel like I have to tell him everything I'm thinking. Like when he asks how I'm doing and I'm anxious I wanna tell him exactly what's wrong even though I already told him earlier
dumbaby
16d ago
@Animaniash all i can say is, fight it. i know it's difficult, but trust me, it's worth it. it's the only way to get out of the habit. I'm living proof that it works !! you'll be okay. thoughts are just thoughts. your boyfriend loves you no matter what, and he doesn't want to see you hurting. so kick ocd in the ass by not confessing. 💕 i believe in you !!
Anonymous
16d ago
@Animaniash I was in the exact same boat, and what @dumbaby said earlier that obsessing over telling him your obsessions will become your obsession is very true. I got to that point, my bf and I struggled hard our first 2 years anytime my ocd would come up. Things like telling him of my bad dreams, if I saw something inappropriate on media, if I have the thought that someone is attractive, etc. The hardest thing was ignoring my ocd telling me that “he needs to know so he doesn’t marry such a horrible person” and my confessions never ended with him thinking less of me. What I found that has helped me is devaluing the thought, as is you have to try and basically show your brain that the thought is inconsequential, does not affect reality, and simply does not matter. This became my mantra for battling my compulsion to confess and I have made a great deal of progress because of it
maam123
16d ago
YESSS