It will get better! Dealing with a relapse now but went 3 months symptom free. There will be relapses/hard days and that’s just how OCD and life are. But know if you stick to the work, it does work out!
Is your relationship the same as it was before? Or do you just have to accept that’s how your relationship is now
@LoverGirl im wondering the same thing
@LoverGirl For me, I’m doing my best to accept things as they are. That my attraction and feelings of intimacy may never be back to full strength. I know this sounds scary, but I’m accepting the uncertainty, I’ve slowly started to stop caring about what OCD says about me and my relationship. This has been hard though because I also have SOOCD
@ChristineKJ Im going through exactly what you just said! I’m trying to do exactly what you just said. It’s so hard though cause you just want things to be back to normal
@LoverGirl I totally understand! I’m definitely not perfect at it and have ruminated sooo many times. It’s such a spiral sometimes. But I find that the more I do my ERP, the better my symptoms. Which is hard because bringing myself to do my SOOCD exposures is beyond difficult.
@ChristineKJ Are you doing therapy with nocd? Cause right now we’re focusing on rocd and then I think SOCD. Cause right now I’m only doing exposures for rocd, are you doing them for both or only focusing on one theme first ?
@LoverGirl So I have more SOOCD than ROCD. I went through therapy with NOCD and liked my therapist but felt like my progress stalled. I found another one outside NOCD and I’ve been doing therapy for SOOCD with her and it’s been super helpful.
I see! And that’s good that you were able to find a therapist! How long have you been dealing with this? I’m going on 4 months now but it seems like forever
It’s been 2.5 years now, 3 next spring. They think mine was brought on by my birth control (apparently me and synthetic hormones don’t agree) and I didn’t know it was OCD until last year.
@ChristineKJ Wow! You should be proud of your progress!
@LoverGirl Thank you! It’s hell but I’m getting there, lol!
I was symptom free for two years! I had a minor spike back in February of this year, but I think that was largely brought on by stress from the pandemic. My good friends were also going through a breakup at this time, and my boyfriend and I were renovating and moving into our new house. So there was a lot of stressors at that time, but around a month and a half later with the help of my amazing therapist I have been symptom free again for about six months! You can get through this, these thoughts you’re experiencing are just thoughts, not true feelings. Hang in there. ♥️
Thank you!! So glad to hear about your progress, I hope I can get there as well!
Im dealing with this issue still for almost a year and its been tough. It still makes me confused and believing im heartless but one thing for sure is that i know now what it is and who gave this thing to me. I have friend atm (we were on and off couple) and we are still fixing things but having trauma doesnt make you want to fall in love. Sorry this isnt a successful story but what is successful is that i know what is and be able to balance that with my life and learn control it, not it controlling me