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I don’t want to trigger you, but this happened to me. I started saying I’m bisexual but I keep it between my husband and I. To be completely honest I only intend on being with men (my husband) but I enjoy looking at women sometimes and there’s nothing wrong with that. Accepting that has made ocd loosen its grip on me, and I stopped having anxiety surrounding those thoughts. It gave me room to breathe. And then I was able to see I really primarily only like men, it was OCD that was causing me to relentlessly question myself. Practicing unconditional self acceptance helps you to sort your thoughts
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I want to add, this is just my experience. It doesn’t mean it’s yours. There are millions of people who are 100% straight who have HOCD. It’s about the obsession of thinking about your sexuality, it giving you anxiety that takes over. You can’t allow it to give you fear or else you continue the cycle of ruminating and checking
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everyone is different!
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it's not going to happen to you, it's just one person's experience. being bisexual is swag af and not the end of the world
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Wdym its swag? And, I understand Its not the end of the world, but I always wanted to fall in love in a girl and do stuff with her but I feel like Ive lost that feeling now and im slowly forgetting about it. Im not worried about being Bi or gay as much as not being able to feel attraction and connection to women or it being lower to whatever other attraction I could have thats what terrifies me.
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@Imaan7 Accept uncertainty, and then everything will fall into place. Trust yourself, trust that everything is going to be okay no matter what. Youre going to be okay no matter what conclusion you come to
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these situations can be extremely triggering. i'm sorry you're struggling with it. keep in mind the goal of exposure therapy and the whole recovery process is not to be 100% certain of your sexuality REGARDLESS of what direction that is. it's not to be 100% sure you're straight, not to be 100% certain of anything. rather it's being okay knowing that you may never know for sure, that none of us really know for sure, and that we don't need to answer those questions and that we certainly won't find it out by ruminating about it, reassurance seeking, or avoiding. ocd fools us into believing that those behaviors/rituals will be helpful but they end up keeping us more stuck. how are you doing now?
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I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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i had recently been triggered to have so-ocd. its been on my mind non-stop. (i am a heterosexual female) and my mind has been all over the place questioning if i have been in denial the entire time. ive always had people tell me they sort of got that vibe it it never really affected me until my own mother had her suspicions. so i would constantly get triggered un public around the same gender, while knowing my true sexuality. ive always been attracted to men but as of recently ive been having super bad anxiety to where i cannot eat or sleep and feel weak all the time. it was like that for a week or so. now im in the calm where i have been trying accept the uncertainty but it still isnt fair as im getting triggered. im a little worried because it feels like i have been lying to my parents the entire time although ive never had the desire to be with the same gender. and i keep getting intrusive thoguhts that make me feel anxious and uncomfortable. its all starting to affect my friendships as im constantly getting triggered with the intrusive thoguhts. i feel a little less anxious compared to how i was a couple days ago. im really scared on why im having these thoughts now when i have been having romantic feelings for a guy the past year or so. ive also been struggling with false attraction and loss attraction to men. it makes me feel uncertain of my life the entire time
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