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I don’t want to trigger you, but this happened to me. I started saying I’m bisexual but I keep it between my husband and I. To be completely honest I only intend on being with men (my husband) but I enjoy looking at women sometimes and there’s nothing wrong with that. Accepting that has made ocd loosen its grip on me, and I stopped having anxiety surrounding those thoughts. It gave me room to breathe. And then I was able to see I really primarily only like men, it was OCD that was causing me to relentlessly question myself. Practicing unconditional self acceptance helps you to sort your thoughts
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I want to add, this is just my experience. It doesn’t mean it’s yours. There are millions of people who are 100% straight who have HOCD. It’s about the obsession of thinking about your sexuality, it giving you anxiety that takes over. You can’t allow it to give you fear or else you continue the cycle of ruminating and checking
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everyone is different!
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it's not going to happen to you, it's just one person's experience. being bisexual is swag af and not the end of the world
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Wdym its swag? And, I understand Its not the end of the world, but I always wanted to fall in love in a girl and do stuff with her but I feel like Ive lost that feeling now and im slowly forgetting about it. Im not worried about being Bi or gay as much as not being able to feel attraction and connection to women or it being lower to whatever other attraction I could have thats what terrifies me.
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@Imaan7 Accept uncertainty, and then everything will fall into place. Trust yourself, trust that everything is going to be okay no matter what. Youre going to be okay no matter what conclusion you come to
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these situations can be extremely triggering. i'm sorry you're struggling with it. keep in mind the goal of exposure therapy and the whole recovery process is not to be 100% certain of your sexuality REGARDLESS of what direction that is. it's not to be 100% sure you're straight, not to be 100% certain of anything. rather it's being okay knowing that you may never know for sure, that none of us really know for sure, and that we don't need to answer those questions and that we certainly won't find it out by ruminating about it, reassurance seeking, or avoiding. ocd fools us into believing that those behaviors/rituals will be helpful but they end up keeping us more stuck. how are you doing now?
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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I don’t know what to do anymore, this started nearly a year ago and caused so much stress and panic attacks over the thought of loosing my boyfriend. Now it just feels real and that he always liked girls and suppressed it (but like the boys i always liked in the past were real feelings they had to be and with my boyfriend i love him) but i haven’t got much anxiety now feels like i want the thoughts and that they don’t bother me even tho they used to, this seems to happen every time i get a lil better, idk just feels so true and that’s what i acc want with no stress, just a lil scared.
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This is killing me slowly day by day, im a straight female 20 years old, i started getting hocd after a break up with an ex and coming off intense use of 🍁🍃 for a few years on and off, i think it has messed up my brain so bad… my hocd is weird because ive been with men my whole life always wanted to be with men.. i also used to always question every relationship “do i love him? Does he love me? Am I with the right person?” Anyways after my hocd triggered my tocd due to researching hocd and finding they can often be linked, I started getting tocd and it’s worse then ever because it’s not who I want to be and I’m going back to situations where my abusive ex partner called me a “man” during a fight. I’ve always been a tomboy but never had same sex attraction. Help. This is killing me. I haven’t been able to study or leave the house most days, and work! I’ve lost motivation for everything and I’m in a dark hole. I need some success stories please
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