- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Username
- OCDeezeNutz69
- Date posted
- 893d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
That is so classic OCD. All the doubts and fears. It seems like you have a really nice and stable relationship. And then comes OCD and makes you question everything. I can relate to that! But if you've had it before I can only advise you to do ERP on it. Do it on the thoughts, do it on the feelings. Do it on the idea that hey maybe it might not be ocd (bc ocd likes making us feel like it's not ocd when it is). I've had all the thoughts you mentioned above. That's just part of ocd. You can do this ❤️
I’m commenting on my older post to document how I’m doing a year and a half later/for me to revisit. Relationship OCD is honestly one of the cruelest, so learning to lean into the uncertainty and discomfort of relationships has been a huge game changer. I’m still with my partner and I love him more everyday. It sounds cheesy, but it’s true. He’s one of the only people I know who is genuinely caring enough to provide help in the ways I actually need. When I realized I was using his reminders as a compulsion, he worked with me on how to help me by giving me the space I need to confront my responsibilities on my own time. He’s truly patient and kind, I’m so grateful for him in my life. I still have worries “am I doing the right thing? What if it’s not?” so responding to those thoughts with “idk, maybe this is the wrong thing. Oh well” has been helpful. We’re currently talking about getting engaged, and I’m genuinely excited. There’s a lot of uncertainty, but he’s worth building a life with. It has been scary recently, our close friends recently broke up unexpectedly. They were also talking about getting engaged, so I’ve been a little triggered. Something like this could have shut me down a year ago, but I’ve been doing alright. When the OCD says “how do you know that’s not going to happen to you?” I say, “I don’t. Oh well.” Basically, looking back on this old post made me reflect a bit on how we’re doing now, and I’ve been so happy to see the progress in our relationship and my OCD management. It gets better, it’s worth the work. Sometimes when I wonder why I’m doing therapy that makes me so uncomfortable, it’s good to remember that the people I love are worth the work.