I need assistance 😭 I love my boyfriend so much and he is so handsome and good looking but my stupid messed up brain is picking out the smallest imperfections on his face and my OCD is making me focus on those instead of on the big picture making him seem unnattractive to my brain 😭 Can anyone give tips on how to stop feeling unattracted to him?? Sometimes I'm so in love with him other times I just don't feel anything then the guilt rolls in 😭

xqrsljk

219d ago

Sorry, i don't know how to help you, but i experiencing this about 2 months?I'm trying not to pay a lot of attention to this thoughts, but I'm still struggling with this too You are not alone💞

Anonymous

218d ago

Try ERP. Try looking at a picture of your boyfriend, and focus on the imperfections. Expose yourself to the thoughts and continue until the anxiety subsides. This is the answer to OCD. Your aren’t a bad person, and you shouldn’t feel guilty, you just have OCD.

Animaniash

218d ago

Thank you so much I will definitely try that!

Anonymous

218d ago

You’re welcome, I hope this helps. Works wonders for me.

Animaniash

218d ago

How long did you do it for before it started working? Also do you have any more ERP treatment ideas I can do at home? My family is looking for a therapist for me right now that does ERP

Anonymous

218d ago

Are you using the counseling on this app at all? I highly recommend it. I was unable to find a therapist in my area and my counslor works with my schedule so it’s very convenient. There’s a loop tape section in the app where you can also record a saying, like “I’m not attracted to my boyfriend.” Or you could be more specific. You can listen to it for min and then take a min rest. Repeat. Keep track and pay attention to your anxiety level. When you cut the anxiety in half you can keep going or quit! Do this daily if it’s a major issue. You will be less likely to have the thoughts the later. Same regimen with the images. You’ll develop a tolerance to the thoughts that you don’t like. And hopefully you won’t even have them. I noticed improvements using ERP rapidly. Just a few days. However, everyone is different and I really challenged myself to get uncomfortable.