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- 3y
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Try ERP. Try looking at a picture of your boyfriend, and focus on the imperfections. Expose yourself to the thoughts and continue until the anxiety subsides. This is the answer to OCD. Your arenāt a bad person, and you shouldnāt feel guilty, you just have OCD.
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- 3y
Thank you so much I will definitely try that!
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- 3y
Sorry, i don't know how to help you, but i experiencing this about 2 months?I'm trying not to pay a lot of attention to this thoughts, but I'm still struggling with this too You are not aloneš
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Are you using the counseling on this app at all? I highly recommend it. I was unable to find a therapist in my area and my counslor works with my schedule so itās very convenient. Thereās a loop tape section in the app where you can also record a saying, like āIām not attracted to my boyfriend.ā Or you could be more specific. You can listen to it for min and then take a min rest. Repeat. Keep track and pay attention to your anxiety level. When you cut the anxiety in half you can keep going or quit! Do this daily if itās a major issue. You will be less likely to have the thoughts the later. Same regimen with the images. Youāll develop a tolerance to the thoughts that you donāt like. And hopefully you wonāt even have them. I noticed improvements using ERP rapidly. Just a few days. However, everyone is different and I really challenged myself to get uncomfortable.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Youāre welcome, I hope this helps. Works wonders for me.
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- 3y
How long did you do it for before it started working? Also do you have any more ERP treatment ideas I can do at home? My family is looking for a therapist for me right now that does ERP
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