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The problem is that sometimes people feel false attraction and when they feel false attraction anxiety comes with it and when that happens it’s makes our OCD even worse😅. It’s a nightmare
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I do get this. However the anxiety I feel from it is becoming less and less, which just makes it feel so real. Sometimes I wish the anxiety would just come back
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Ocd will do that and it can do that. I felt so comdfident it was OCD then the next it felt way too real. It is just the ocd
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But sometimes I feel like it doesn’t bother me, and then the next day it really bothers me again. I just really don’t know what is real anymore. And even when i do feel okay with it I don’t like the fact that I might be okay with it. I don’t know if im making sense… sorry
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@BradOCD HOCD is my primary theme and i basically just had to accept that I’m attracted to some men and attracted to some women (bisexual). If I have a thought I try to let it have it’s space, and then pass. But I CHOOSE to be with my girlfriend, who I care about immensely. So it’s possible to feel both things at once - OCD and our choices. And if the relationship doesn’t work, you have to remind yourself it won’t be the end of the world.
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@mtaylor25 It just seems very hard to love and care for someone while I’m dealing with all these other feelings and thoughts.
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@mtaylor25 How i know, find people who have same sex witg you doesn't mean that you are bisexual, or you believe what your hocd said?.. I don't understand
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No straight man doesn’t think some men aren’t attractive😂
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Very true! And I had always been comfortable with this before now. And now it feels like I have no choice but to be with a man because that’s what my brain is telling me I like. And I feel like it’s been going on for so long that I’ve even started to believe it. It doesn’t make me feel good at all but is calms the thoughts ever so slightly
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Feel the same, but i'm female and hocd in the front of my rocd :( but i believe that we will feel better in the future
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I do hope you’re right
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This is commonly experienced for people who struggle with sexual orientation OCD and relationship OCD! Know that OCD is going to want you to be sure one way or the other. The true treatment and recovery comes when you are able to not know 100%, when you don't need to answer the OCDs questions, and you stop responding to the OCD questions/thoughts as though they are dangerous. Once you stop responding behaviorally or mentally as though they are dangerous, your brain will stop trying to protect you from them (eg getting anxious/sending anxiety signals).
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But this did happen to me though and I know you feel
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I feel like I’ve just given up on being the old me. And as the anxiety had gone down it feels like the intrusive thoughts aren’t that bad anymore. I can’t even tell if I want them to be true or not anymore. I was so sure I didn’t and now I don’t.
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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I am struggling so much with ROCD symptoms, and lately everything feels more and more real, like I am finally “realizing” that I don’t love my boyfriend anymore. When I think about him, about him speaking kindly to me, or about being with him — I feel no warmth inside me, no happiness, no calm. This makes me panic, and I start thinking that maybe this is the truth, that I don’t love him anymore or never did. It feels like my mind is connecting everything to “prove” I don’t love him — I even struggle now to remember good moments with him or any time when I felt love. When I am in his arms, instead of comfort, I feel anxious and disconnected. When he says sexual things, I feel disgust or nothing. I also had a really hard moment with my mom yesterday — I told her I don’t feel love anymore, and she told me that I am lying to myself, that I am hurting both him and myself. I keep hearing her words in my mind now. On top of this, someone on NOCD told me to focus on traits I admire about him, but when I try, nothing comes to mind and this scares me even more — like maybe I never truly loved him, I just liked the idea of having a boyfriend. I know I have read a lot about ROCD, I know about ERP, I know I should “let the feelings be there” and not fight them. But even though I know this, I feel so stuck, hopeless, and burned out. The thoughts feel so real now — like I have a gut feeling that I don’t love him anymore, that I’ve changed, and I’m just forcing myself. I am also afraid that deep down, maybe I don’t want to love him anymore, I just want to feel “normal” again — and this terrifies me. Lately I feel like everything feels more and more real — like the thoughts and this horrible feeling are the truth that I was denying all along. Now I feel almost numb, like I have accepted this horrible idea and I can’t connect to my emotions any I feel desperate. I don’t know what is real anymore. Please, if anyone can relate or give some guidance, I would be very grateful. 💔 (edited)
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