Anonymous
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LoverGirlLoverGirl
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If you don’t mind me asking, we’re you engaged before your ocd ? Or did it happen after ?
AnonymousAnonymous
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My ocd episode started when I realized he was going to propose months ago. He recently proposed so I’ve been in the episode for months before getting engaged
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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And what about your hocd?
AnonymousAnonymous
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That started months before the proposal when I knew he was going to propose soon. Are you going through something similar ?
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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Yes same here !! Iv been with my bf for 8 years, I started a new job and he was planning to propose as well and then I was hit with hocd and rocd and it’s been 5 months of hell. Iv been doing therapy with nocd and things have been getting better. I just hope I can someone marry him just like you’re marrying your partner
AnonymousAnonymous
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I am so sorry that you’re going through this. It’s really tough I know.. it’s really scary especially since this is what I’ve been waiting for my entire life !!! I never had hocd or anything like that before the reality of the proposal set in. Have you told your bf about the thoughts ? I didn’t for months but I finally did and my bf kindly laughed and said “I know that’s not you it’s your ocd I’m not worried one bit” and he still proposed knowing I was going through this. I’m trying really hard to not let these thoughts ruin my life and it’s going through hell everyday but just really hope that therapy and medication will kick in and laugh at this someday. I started therapy with nocd as well and I kinda quit after my first week of exposures Bc I freaked out too much but now I’m back at it and just hoping it’ll help with my depression. Also changing jobs is super stressful. That maybe increased your anxiety which triggered the thoughts
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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Yea I totally understand. When it first hit me I didn’t know what was happening and I wasn’t eating, I was constantly crying, and then I was let go of my job. Before this iv never really questioned my sexuality I was so sure about it, and I did tell my bf pretty early on about my thoughts but that was before I was diagnosed with ocd. He also just tells me to laugh at the thoughts. He’s my best friend and i can’t imagine my life without him which just makes me want to get better. I hope one day to be engaged to me and to start our own family. It’s all iv ever wanted with him. Congrats on your engagement and future wedding coming up, I hope to be in your shoes one day. Just knowing that there are other people going through this and making it out really brings me hope.
AnonymousAnonymous
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Literally the same thing happened to me! I lost a lot of weight and still haven’t gained it back I still cry all the time lol but I’m so glad your told him and he makes you feel better and he is so understanding ! You will be engaged one day and be super happy. Thank you so much for your kind words! I can tell that you really love him.. If I were you (which I sorta am) don’t wait. Let him propose and just go through what you gotta go through to get what you want. Waiting is out will make it worse Bc it’s more pressure on yourself to get better quickly. You are open and honest with him and if he wants to pop the question, let him!
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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Thank you so much. I keep telling myself that when I’m better, “we’ll do this, or that” but you’re right. I’m no longer going to wait. Thank you so much for talking to me. It’s good to know that other people are also experiencing this. 😊
AnonymousAnonymous
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Anytime , I wish you the best !!
LoverGirlLoverGirl
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@Anonymous See you around friend!
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