- Username
- Jokern
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I once worked as a caregiver. White lies happened often where I could not explain the full truth or the patient could not understand it. I began to look at the difference between a white lie due to the truth not being explainable, and one with the truth being explainable. So now if I need to keep something something myself for safety, I try to give enough of the truth without hurting myself. I'm focusing on the point I want to get across while speaking as much truth as I know how.
Thanks for sharing your story. My situation is like this. My partner doesnt want to know everything about my solo sex life. Like when and how i masturbate for example. One day i had to say a white lie about a thing to protect her from knowing more about my sex life. Which is what she wanted because she didnt want to know. But still i feel dishonest telling white lie even though she doesnt want to hear the full truth because that is part o my private sex life. Hope that makes sense. :-)
For example if you miss removing all items from masturbation. Like it could happen we are all human. And then partner accidentaly might see something. I would say a white lie to not tell what was going on because she have said that she doesnt want to know. So i am beeing kind not telling and confessing but still beeing forced to feel dishonest.
White lies happen all the time. I wouldn’t feel too bad about it if it’s a rare occurrence.
So I cant remember if I've ever asked this here, but has anyone ever done something awful that their ocd convinced them to do and now can't let go of the guilt? And I dont mean like terrible terrible things but like lying to someone, cheating, or something else that can cause heavy guilt. If so, how did you get past this? I feel like I'm not sure how to forgive myself when my moral code is so high.
Has anyone ever felt like you have to confess to every single lie you’ve told? Me and my brain lol
Trying my best to word this without asking for reassurance- I am really struggling with the thought that I may have lied about something to my husband 2 years ago and that it was something important. I don’t remember feeling like I was lying at the time. I believe I probably left out certain information because I did not think it was relevant to his question, but now my mind is trying to tell me that I thought I was lying at the time and/or he would think it’s a lie. I am trying to remind myself that this is a very gray situation, and that someone can say something is a lie, and someone else can say it’s not a lie, and that’s it’s a matter of opinion. My main compulsion is confession and I’m really sitting through the urge right now because I know if I confess this something will just take it’s place. Any feedback on dealing with obsessions around lying?
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