What i really want to know is how to use ERP in the lost of attraction to woman thoughts and feelings. Like thoughts i have never been attracted to woman IT was all a lie. The feelings of feeling repulsed to the womans body , IT doesn't arrouse me anymore. I lost IT when hocd started. And the part i cant Push into is this. I agree with all the attraction to men. I agree with the feelings of arrousel to men the feelings of feeling gay, the feelings of wanting sex with men. But the other part is harder. And i dont know to do Erp for that. And that is the part i lost my attraction to woman, i want to recover im so ready to do what i need to. I Just only need someone who can tell my how to the Erp for those thoughts ; - feel no attraction to woman means im gay - feeling like i dont like straight sex anymore - feelings like woman vigina is repulsing me now( very hard one cause i liked it much before this) - feelings like i never get my love back for woman - specially the rocd thoughts i should leave my girlfriend cause im in denail etc - when i see a men and woman i feel only attraction to men and i go check Them Both - feeling like my sexuality changed over time. - i have backdoorspikes cause i feel no anxiety and feel like i like and want the thoughts

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I feel the same way but I doubt I was ever straight in the first place only get arousal to men now

Sven

Date posted: 4y

I try to accept that. And kwam into the arrousel. Because ur scared that that means ur gay. You and i have all the symtoms to be gay right now. Your heart knows what u want even if u dienst feel IT right now. We can only face this and lean into this agree with the arrousel tell urself u like IT. Tell urself ur happy to go finally gay. Scary but has to be done. Dont tell urself that this is ocd and not you to truly overcome this face it head on

Sparker1289

Date posted: 4y

As a non-professional and I know this doesn't help much but, maybe looking at attractive women in one form or another (not porn) and being ok with not being attracted will help desensitize the "forcing" aspect of what you're going through. From what I'm reading and understanding, it seems like there's a forcing going on which is possibly pushing the attraction further away.

Sven

Date posted: 4y

I think u are right there. And i try that . I feel sad when i do this. BUT i must face saddness and hopeless feelings to overcome this

Jesse Miller

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

I think you need to give acceptance into the fact that your sexuality doesn’t need an answer. The biggest exposure you can do, is date who you want, with the possibility of these thoughts. Your OCD will keep tricking you but when that starts to happen, give acceptance to your thoughts. “Maybe I don’t find her attractive anymore” and continue with your day with said person. You don’t need to find reassurance in your compulsions. You can accept that maybe you are only into men, and not women. I bet though, as soon as you give acceptance to your thoughts and lean into the anxiety, you won’t feel such an urgency to solve your sexuality.

Sven

Date posted: 4y

You right , i should watch my girlfriend in het eyes and tell myself its oke to not feel attracted right now. IT Will feel like were are Friends but i have to face those thoughts feelings. Like i dont care anymore

Jesse Miller

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

@Sven Exactly. I went through relationship OCD with my partner before and my worst compulsion was trying to seek reassurance that I was still in love with him and found him attractive. Attraction in your partner is not permanent, and some days - it’s really ok to not like them as much. When you get stuck in that cycle of anxiety that makes you feel you need to solve it - that’s when you need to take a step back and tell yourself “ok maybe I’m not attracted today, but maybe I will be tomorrow” and continue on.

Sven

Date posted: 4y

Jesse Miller can we maybe contact

Sven

Date posted: 4y

Maybe u can guide me a bit with rocd.

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