How do we accept uncertainty when it comes to our sexual orientation.. especially when this subtype makes us so confused. Do people actually get over this theme? Any tips from my fellow suffers? 😔

I struggle with it too, and it's super scary, but it is overcomable. Just think "maybe I do like that gender. It's hopeless. I'm never getting out of it" Don't question your thoughts. That only fuels the fire. It makes them more scary. I still struggle but going towards the thoughts instead of running away can help you get used to the anxiety and unhook yourself ☺️

Have you done ERP with NOCD? I’ve had other subtypes before but this one scares me most. Just when I started to feel better, my OCD goes “oh you self diagnosed yourself, your first therapist never said it’s true. You’re in denial”. It fuled my ocd after writing my “worst case scenario”. I’ve been on treatment for almost 2 months 😪

ERP for this and for any subtype is worse before it gets better. Try not to ruminate on the thoughts and do not Google!!

@OCD33 I failed today by googling after a month into treatment! I feel like a failure that I gave in to this stupid OCD! Don’t get me wrong it has gotten better when it comes to my anxiety dropping but I’m currently in the “confusion” phase of my sexuality. I feel nothing.

@Anonymous That is not failing!! Girl!! I used to not be able to go a day without Google! Celebrate those victories. A mess up today doesn’t mean all your hard work is gone!!! Just know ocd loves the uncertainty and doubt

@OCD33 Thanks for your support! I also wish you full speed recovery ❤️‍🩹

Hi Anonymous, like OCD33 said, slipping during the course of ERP is not a failure. It happens, heck it still happens to me after months of ERP, especially when my anxiety is running high from outside stressors or I am extremely tired. The OCD bully is just trying to make you doubt your progress and your strength of will because youare starving it by doing ERP and not doubting yourself. You feeling better makes it feel worse and get desperate and lash out in anyway it can to ty to win you back. ERP will gradually get easier over time, but celebrate even the small victories and don’t be hard on yourself if you slip up. Keep an eye out for any back door spikes from when your anxiety starts leveling out and your OCD will start questioning why you aren’t anxious “enough” anymore about your intrusive thoughts or when doing ERP, stay strong and don’t let the OCD make you start doubting yourself and you progress and convictions. Best wishes, you are strong and you got this.

Hi BK, thank you for your comment. You have no ideal how much that means to me. It is definitely a challenge & like all suffers, I wish I wasn’t experiencing this. However, it is what it is and I will continue to fight for myself. I will work hard on recovering. I also wish you the best on your recovery! Stay strong & thanks once again for your support ❤️

@Anonymous Hi Anonymous, very glad I could help and yep, OCD is definitely not a daily added challenge we ever asked for, but it is one I know we can both overcome. Stay positive and determined with your ERP exercises and in your recovery journey in general and be proud of yourself for standing up to the OCD bully. Best wishes and take care!

i think the easiest way to give acceptance is to allow yourself to not really know your sexual orientation. you don't need an answer to it, and maybe you like boys, or girls, or both, or neither. the best thing about our sexual orientation is that it is for us to decide, and it doesn't matter what others think of it. we do not need to give into reassurance and we do not need to check it. when you start to get these thoughts, just say to yourself "i like whoever i like today, and that's fine" and keep going. you got this!

Thank you Jesse! It is definitely hard, especially when I have never doubted my sexual orientation before (I’m 28 & have always identity as straight). Never had an issue with complimenting other females, however this intrusive thought stuck with me, which in turn makes me confused.. especially doing ERP. It sucks even more to develop ROCD while in treatment.. I feel so guilty and sad that my fiancé have to also deal with my mental health. He’s the sweetest. I am still learning to accept it all, even though it hurts so badly. I appreciate your comment. You’re all very supportive!

@Anonymous I’ve been there. It is definitely a challenge. Remind yourself though - you can have your thoughts every single day, but your actions is what is going to speak louder. You can love your fiancé everyday and be in a wonderful and loving relationship, and tomorrow you might think “maybe I’m gay”, and that is ok. It doesn’t mean you have to end it, just have the thought and keep going in the relationship you have! It’s amazing he supports you

@Jesse Miller Does these thoughts AND feelings fade into the background over time? For me, the anxiety has dropped over the months while doing ERP. However, I continue to wake up being reminded of what I’m going through & that in turns makes my chest tight and it does makes me feel sad. Very good point! I continuously love him, despite being triggered when he’s around. I won’t let this brain mess up my relationship with him. He is support supportive!!

@Anonymous Yes, sometimes it’ll be silently in the background. Other times it’ll still be loud. Recovery is never linear and you will have to navigate how to live with your obsessions. Pushing yourself to fight compulsions helps a lot!