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PotatoChip21

186d ago

Relationship OCD

Does anyone else’s OCD convince them they have a crush on people even if they’re already committed in a LTR? I find that I can’t even talk to anyone of the opposite sex that I find good looking without feeling guilty about it because I will get intrusive thoughts about them/what it would like to be with the Etc which will make me overthink situations in which I thought I was flirting (even though I wasn’t) and I will keep overthinking my feelings and it all makes me super anxious because I do NOT want a crush at all but even thinking about someone else while in a LTR cause guilt shame and extreme anxiety for me so it only makes me think about the situation EVEN MORE which has me convinced I have a crush when I just want the thoughts to go away lol. This is not seeking reassurance I just want advice if someone else overcame this fear etc

kaylanicole01

185d ago

Hi PotatoChip21! Thank you so much for having the vulnerability and reaching out on here. I have dealt with ROCD even when I wasn’t in a relationship. It is definitely not fun! Some thing that I might try to do is create uncertainty statements around your anxieties. Such as, “I may or may not be attracted to that person.” I know that sounds incredibly distressing, but in the long run, it’s going to help immensely! Our OCD wants us to find certainty, when in actuality, nobody has certainty about life. Keep up the work! I know it’s hard, but you can do it!