Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
WorryBrainWorryBrain
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Not ignore. Accept. Sit in it. Feel it. Then move on
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
Omg that is so hard.
WorryBrainWorryBrain
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Yeah it’s like a place of all Twins lol.
WorryBrainWorryBrain
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Soooooo hard. But your in the right place. This is an amazing forum. So glad this is here
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
I agree. The people are very nice and I haven't been judged yet.
youngocdyoungocd
- Date posted
- 3y
No judgement here! We’re all suffering from the same terrible things..
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
@youngocd It just kills me that all my intrusive thoughts seem to revolve around my son. He means everything to me.
youngocdyoungocd
- Date posted
- 3y
@Belle91 That’s the thing about ocd and intrusive thoughts. It targets the ones you love most! Because you love them so much and would never have these types of feelings about them, ocd plays tricks on you and puts these thoughts in your head. Just remember you are not your thoughts!
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
@youngocd Thank you so much. I want so much to go back to my rituals of stopping the thoughts and telling them I know I would never hurt him and that I do love him but I know that's not what I'm supposed to be doing. I'm supposed to sit with it and accept uncertainty. That's just really hard to do.
youngocdyoungocd
- Date posted
- 3y
@Belle91 I know how hard it is. I’m so sorry you are having to go through that. My ocd subtypes tend to switch up over the years but a couple years back I suffered so bad with harm ocd. I know it is the worst feeling to have these types of thoughts. Have you considered therapy/medication at all? I was seriously on the brink of su*cide and the only option for me was to get on meds. They changed my life and helped my ocd so much. I don’t suffer from harm ocd as much anymore (once in awhile I do), but I think the meds mixed with therapy really helped me overcome them.
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
@youngocd I'm on setriline but I think it's too low of a dose and I may need to up it a little.
youngocdyoungocd
- Date posted
- 3y
@Belle91 Oh forsure! Good. If you feel like you need to up your dose then do it. If that doesn’t help then try something else. I went through 3 different meds until I found the one that works wonders for me. I really hope it helps you..
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
Right lol. I love it and hate it. Love all the support. Hate seeing how many struggle through this hell every day.
cmac1339cmac1339
- Date posted
- 3y
The therapy is to remain uncertain so as to not play tug of war with OCD
Belle91Belle91
- Date posted
- 3y
Yeah that's what I'm trying to do now but before I found this place and a specialist in OCD I was using ritual based therapy for months so now it's hard to go from that comfort to embracing uncertainty of weather or not I'll snap and hurt him.
Lms526Lms526
- Date posted
- 3y
It is incredibly hard to just sit with the thoughts. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. I have harm OCD. It is awful and can be so scary. No one will judge you here. Also, don't be surprised if your theme switches. That is very common. But don't get too hung up on theme. OCD is OCD and ERP works regardless of what theme you are dealing with. I like to think of OCD as a goblin. It will wear many different disguises, but its the same annoying goblin underneath. ERP is not fun or easy. It will be one of the hardest things you will ever do. But the benefits are so worth it. I have been where you are. ERP has been life changing. I also encourage you to go all in when doing ERP.
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- Date posted
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- Date posted
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