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What’s your best piece of advice? Amazing that you’re doing well!! :)
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So proud of you!!!! Can’t wait to meet you on the other side ♥️
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How to deal with intrusive thoughts without anxiety? It feels very real, and i have rocd about 10 month and I'm scared that i start believing to my rocd...
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Having the thoughts without anxiety is progress! It means you are getting used to the thoughts being there. I know it can feel like you agree with them since you aren’t freaking out anymore but see this as a step forward!! The less you react them the closer you are to recovery . I still get the thoughts but I try my best to act how I normally would without giving the thoughts any time or doing any compulsions
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@PotatoChip21 Thank you :)
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@PotatoChip21 These thoughts without anxiety are different from others, which were. It's like they're randomly popping in my head like normal thoughts and feels like the truth
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@PotatoChip21 Sorry, one more question! How to deal with thoughts when you for example look at picture of your partner and find him not attractive?
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Yes! Please share some advice! How do you deal with ruminating? I can’t seem to get ahold of it…🥺
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What are your main themes ?
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@PotatoChip21 Relationship OCD. I’m always questioning if I love my husband or want children with him anymore. Checking my feelings. I’m just constantly in my head. Never able to just be in the moment with him. I’m so anxious all the time. When I do ERP and start to lose the anxiety, I get anxiety around not feeling anxious anymore. Makes me scared it’s my truth. I found someone else attractive and that’s what trigger he horrible thoughts and fear response
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@Jeanie12 Literally that’s what triggered mine too! Had just a small conversation with someone I was working with that I found attractive and I immediately felt so guilty and thought about the situation literally everyday for MONTHS & it made me rethink my relationship with my boyfriend because I didn’t understand why I was constantly obsessing and worrying 24/7. I convinced myself I even had a crush because I was thinking about it so much. Then I realized it was all anxiety related. The more I tried to push the thoughts away the more They came around which only fed into the guilt too and I would Google which made me feel worse ! My problem is that if anyone shows even the slightest interest in me I freaked out because that hadn’t happened since I was single (4 years ago!) I had intrusive thoughts of being with this other person too and I would cry every single day because I didn’t want the thoughts. Constantly felt Like someone was in my head trying to torture me.
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❤️we all just want it to be over already, but do not set a deadline for your recovery (e.g. "i give myself 3 months to get better") and let yourself go at your own pace ❤️accept that healing is a very, very non-linear process with highs and very dark lows.. it's a lifelong process for us those with ocd, when you stop suffering you start learning ! ❤️WITHOUT ruminating on this, identify the root of your obsessive themes. they hurt so much because they go after your deepest wounds. clearing out the fear or pain that stands at the base of your obsessions will help (e.g. my sexual ocd came as an emotional outlet for my inability to accept a new family member in my life) (e.g. my solipsism ocd came from the deep fear of being alone and abandoned) ❤️the truth will always surface. even if you have no hope anymore and not even asking for reassurance helps, put that last bit of your trust in the other people that are in good states of mind and who are trying to help you. remember that you're living by a distorted mind and if you can't trust your own brain, have trust in others. those who love you are your life net when you're down in the slumps. trust me. ❤️ocd can be caused by chemical imbalance. if you feel like you need it, don't be reluctant to try medication. it's important to have the correct dose and the correct meds. it may change a lot before finally being effective, but it can help A LOT. it was lifesaving for me. (I personally took 125 mg sertraline at 14 years old) ❤️cliche, but the exposure part of erp is in you already. we get exposed to relentless obsessions and terrors already by our minds, our part is the response prevention. throw yourself into the depths of uncertainty and fear by refusing to act upon your compulsions. any learned behavior can be unlearned, our brains are changing! 🧠 it does feel like we can't risk because we can't "know for sure" and we better be safe than sorry, right? well, screw this. unlearn these behavior and live life your own way. ❤️connect with other people with ocd. community is our pillar as humans, especially those communities who share our suffering. ❤️we tend to ask for reassurance a lot and other just reassure us because it's rational to them, not being aware thar it only causes us more pain as we have distoerted thinking. teach your loved ones to respond to your reassurance in a way that doesn't feed the cycle. (e.g. reassurance seeking- "hey, are you ABSOLUTELY SURE that I didn't hit an animal on the way back home??" ❌️wrong response- "no, you didn't, I already told you, I don't remember hearing or seeing anything!" ✅️better response- "I can see you are really distressed right now, why don't we go cook something together/watch a movie/paint together/etc.." ❤️keep your faith close to you. there is something bigger around us that surrounds us with love and takes care of us. even if you don't believe in a god, spirituality goes beyond religion. for me, this higher being was the sky, and everytime I saw the giant clouds I'd tell myself that they felt my emotions and they're watching over in my suffering. strangely enough, this pillar i built in the clouds was strong and really did give me a helping hand. who's to tell these connections we make are not real?
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I just completed a check in with my therapist today so naturally I reflected on my journey with OCD. Summer/Fall of 2023 feels like a swath of darkness. Bombarded with horrible intrusive thoughts, I thought my life was over. I did not see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hated myself. Life lost meaning for me and it felt as if every hope and dream was shattered. Needless to say my life was lost to me during a time when I should have been enjoying it the most. I was post grad with a good job lined up. But none of it mattered- my mind was as broken. Thank God, I had some small voice in me that urged me forward and to get help. So I did. I felt so scared and unsure. Was I doing the wrong thing going to therapy? I was not. It was the best decision I made for myself. Fast forward to nearly two years later, my life couldn’t be more different. I see and feel the light. I have so much love and gratitude for myself and for everyone who helped me along the journey. My therapist, my family, all the brave content creators who openly speak about their experiences, no matter how taboo. I won’t lie, it was a lot of work. And I had to learn to be uncomfortable and deal with frustrations. I had to learn to trust myself. I still deal with sticky and intrusive thoughts but my response and my daily life despite them can not be more different. So I am here to be proof to you that there is so much hope. If you don’t have the little voice in you urging you forward, than I will be just that. Go to therapy, get help, put in the work. It is so worth it. Every time there is a setback, and there will be many, push through. Feel free to ask questions! But no reassurance will be given.
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hi guys haven’t posted here in awhile but i’ve fully recovered and have a really good life now lots of friends enjoying school and have a really loving boyfriend who helped me out of my ocd even if he didn’t know he was helping me (just through being loved and supported i felt happy enough to recover) hope u guys can recover too i had severe ocd and basically got better within 2 months by myself :)
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