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Yeah, it's scary but it helps a lot of people
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I think when people put it that way it comes across as very insensitive and ignorant of how bad the thoughts actually are. I think it’s more about learning to gradually pay less attention to the thoughts over time by sort of accepting that they come and go naturally, and when understanding the thoughts overcoming some of the anxiety by realizing that they’re purely the result of a disorder with no relevance to the real world. I think? But like it’d be nicer if people were polite and considerate about it. Maybe some people say “sit with it” and omit the complexities just because that would be a mouthful. Idk
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Yeah I understand
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I hate to ask this like a creeper but is there any way you could look at my recent posts. The last one was from 2 mins ago. I need some guidance please
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I know it sounds cruel and impossible. I'm not saying its easy, but when it comes to intrusive thoughts the best thing you can do is acknowledge it "This is an OCD thought" Then dont engage with it. Dont try to replace it with a "good" thought. Don't try to push it out of your head. Don't try to reason, argue, or disprove it. Yes, your anxiety will go crazy for awhile. But then it will peak and decline. Every time you give into a compulsion you are telling your brain the threat is real. It responds by giving you the thought more often. Doing compulsions does relieve your anxiety, but it also makes your OCD worse. Everyone has intrusive thoughts. The real problem is the meaning we give them. Letting the thoughts be is tough, but it is the only way to break the OCD cycle. You have no control over the thoughts that come, but you DO have control over how you respond. Doing compulsions is learned behavior. You are making that choice. I know it doesn't feel like a choice, but it is. You can choose NOT to do compulsions. At first, your OCD will throw a temper tantrum, but the more you do it, the easier it gets.
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Well, that’s the widely accepted solution. But no one’s forcing you to do it.
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Helpful.
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@Bookworm91 Glad to be of help
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It’s like how am I supposed to sit with horrible intrusive thoughts they are by nature horrible to me in particular how am I supposed to ignore them
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Yeah the instinct is to attack it and keep it under watch at all times
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I think ok sit with it.. but how am I supposed to carry on the the day and complete tasks enjoy films and just live.. to me I feel like I cannot and don’t want to carry on until it’s gone
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It is difficult, but we have to come to a point where we have to decide whether to live our lives according to our values, or to let OCD rule everything. The uneasy feelings are something we must learn to live with.
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When an intrusive thought comes I can’t just say “that’s not true” and just move on. I always feel like I have to disprove the thought and be able to say it with confidence but the problem is that the ocd doesn’t allow me to feel and say it with confidence so I get stuck for hours or even days. How can I stop feeling like I need to do this?
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I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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OK, this might sound really dumb, but when you guys get intrusive thoughts, do they just come once and then go away? I’ve heard that repeatedly thinking about an intrusive thought is considered ‘checking,’ but it doesn’t feel like I have any control over how many times it comes up in my head. It’s not like I’m trying to check anything—it just keeps showing up, almost like it’s terrorizing me every time. I can’t seem to stop it from looping, stop remembering it, or prevent it from coming up. Every time it does, I feel horrified, and I already know it’s going to horrify me. I don’t think I’m actively trying to see if my feelings have changed, so is this still considered checking? How do other people get an intrusive thought and just move on? Doesn’t it pop up a million times for them too? I always thought that was normal, but now I’m hearing this could be a compulsion, and I feel really confused, scared, and lost. Is this why my OCD feels so extreme? Because I really don’t feel like I can control how many times the thought pops up.
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