Struggle with this all the time. Now that i know my ocd can make me question normal relationships. Idk when im actually in a bad relationship lol.
I am not officially educated in this but it seems to me that this question is a compulsion. I am sorry to see you are struggling with ROCD at this current time.
trust me if it was a real wrong relationship you would know ocd is mainly worries and the worries are usually covered with a lot of overthinking and anxiety an actual wrong relationship wouldnt be a thought itd be a feeling is most of it overthinking anxiety that is trapped in your mind look to see if you are doing compulsions for it which you are doing right now by asking this question if you have to ask if its ocd its probably ocd trying to convince you its not ocd
also by the actual wrong relationship part their willl be thoughts too but no where as near significant as ocd
It can be a feeling too! Luckily for me, most of the time it's a thought OR feeling, not both at once. However, that is still possible.
Well when the crisis has stopped i like to wrote down exactly what happened in real life, like the real actions he or I have taken and that way ypu can take a grounded decision or view of the situation
Thank you everyone for your response. In rocd is it common to want to break up your boyfriend?
Yes, this is also a compulsion. You're trying to get rid of the anxiety and your brain is telling you if you get out, the anxiety will disappear. But that's not true. Your relationship isn't the problem, OCD is the problem. Again, let the thought/urge be there and carry on with your day.
Asking this question is a compulsion. It's you seeking certainty in a situation where there is none. Let the question be there but don't try to answer it. It'll be uncomfortable at first but it will subside if you leave it alone.
Oop—you’re probably right
Thank you so much guys it means alot just one last question how do you differentiate between an actual relationship problem and rocd related problems?
As long as you're in a generally loving/safe place with a partner you're willing to learn and grow with, you can leave this question alone. Trying to answer it won't help your OCD in the long term, in fact it'll just feed into it. You'll find flaws where there aren't any and get overly preoccupied with problems that, without OCD, would never have bothered you.
In my opinion, if your relationship is abusive in any way, if your partner is only considering themselves, if it’s not allowing you to flourish and grow.. those are problems. Other things like attraction, connection, etc will naturally ebb and flow over time.