I think I have a legit crush on my coworker. I even wonder if I have feelings that I’m holding back or afraid to accept and calling it ocd when in fact they are real. This is terrifying because I have a bf who I care a lot about. Anyone have the experience of being around someone so frequently that you begin to think you have feelings for them? Is there such thing as legit feelings and ones that are not true?

You're human. So what if you find this person attractive? It doesn't mean that you will act on the attraction, or that you don't care about your boyfriend. Your OCD is misunderstanding this attraction and trying to make it something it's not. Just because we're in a relationship doesn't mean we're bad if we find someone else attractive. Don't be scared.

Excellent advice. I agree, don't avoid this person. That is avoidance. Talk to them, ask them how their day is, make friends with them. Make yourself talk to them. You will see eventually that this is the OCD.

But I had another thought... here it goes- I think I would leave my current bf for her! I don’t know if I really would or it’s ocd. I can’t handle this anymore. Sometimes I feel like I just need to accept they gay lifestyle. It’s too hard to keep fighting!!!!

Don't fight it! Don't panic! You must understand that the only reason you are so anxious, is not about the thought, you're catastrophising! Let the thoughts come! Think of them as another person. You feel guilty right now probably, but you know deep down that these thoughts are not you. The fact that you are so anxious about them, proves that you would NOT leave your partner. Right? If you wanted to, you would have done so already. Don't worry, we all know what you're going through. This shall pass. But do not fight the thoughts, accept them and let them flow through you. You are a good person, this is why you feel the way you do about these thoughts.

If it scares you this much to think about having a crush on someone else then you should obviously love your boyfriend. Dont let the OCD fool you, just dont react to these thoughts. Maybe even try talking to this person MORE as a form of ERP to show you that you arent really falling for someone else, because if you were then it wouldnt be scary at all:)

So what that you find her attractive! You're not allowed to find a member of the same sex attractive? Your OCD is misunderstanding that as meaning that you want to be with this person.

It doesn't mean you're gay!

I do I face it every day! I force myself to spend time with her but the attraction gets worse! Sometimes I experience attraction sometimes I don’t. Today it’s intense. I think that if she liked me too I would leave my bf. I’m not sure.

This time will pass, trust me!

If you truly dont want to leave your boyfriend you arent going to. OCD thoughts can be sooo convincing ugh

I’ve been dealing with the fear of being gay since I was about 8!

It went away for a long time but it came back 10x harder. I finally decided to date a girl and concludes I am somewhere on the spectrum of sexuality. Although while I was with her I still found men attractive and would think if I could just find a good man. Soon after I found my bf and was so happy but then all the doubts started back up.

Like if I’m truly gay I can’t be with him. Then it was what if I prefer a woman? The testing started up all over again.

You were just obsessing about that because OCD picks things you care about- like him and your relationship

I can’t afford to break up with him again!!!!

I already did once and I’m supposed to be moving to be with him in a new state this summer

He won’t stick around each time I’m miserable but don’t know what to do anymore

Oh damn, first of all congratulations on that step. Do your best to practice ERP and keep up with therapy and Im sure it will be okay

This is beatable

I pray it is- I think I need some intensive treatment but I feel it hasn’t been this bad in a long time. Do you deal with this type of HOCD?

Ehhh, like i know the tortures of OCD and I had started experiencing some HOCD before but when I learned HOCD was a thing and that its just OCD Im not actually gay I stopped worrying about it, my main problem is ROCD