- Username
- Marjolaine
- Date posted
- 2y ago
How exactly was it your fault? I'm sorry for saying this about your husband but that pretty much makes him an asshole. There was literally no reason for this comment and he's obviously not sorry. Blaming it on the victim after bad-mouthing them (despite knowing their condition) is really toxic. I'm sorry this happened to you. If this is a constant occurrence, i suggest you communicate with him and if he still keeps on using the blame card without giving a single fuck about your perspective, it's better to leave this relationship.
You deserve love, you are loved, precious and you matter. Never let anyone steal your self worth and self love away. People should never make such rude and harsh comments on anyone. We are here to love and support each other not to break others' hearts. Please talk to him in a serious way and ask him what did he mean by saying that. Does he speak to you in this attitude all the time or it was something random? Do you feel loved and supported by your husband?
He is usually nice and doesn't mean to be nasty. But the problem is we cannot have a good conversation about feelings and my health without him going into mutism. I'm going with him at my next appointment with my psychiatrist so I hope it will make things a bit better
What the hell is wrong with your husband like WTF
He's the cliché of the "man" ; I should stay strong, not have emotions,... And it makes him feel miserable, even if he doesn't want to say it loud
Thanks for your support. He is bad at being empathetic and can be easily overwhelmed with his anger. In many points I feel supported and loved by him, but I don't really feel secure sharing my emotions. My psychiatrist suggested we go together to the next appointment so I convinced (with difficulties) my husband to do so. Hope it will make things a little better.
Not being empathetic is no excuse for behavior though. My mom kinda sucks at empathy too but she tries her best to act as she should to others.
Please keep us updated
@naquin0 Sure. I find it very hard to confront harm OCD in this situation, and since it's the holidays here I'm keeping my daughter full time at home. I can sing 🎵under pressure 🎵 now 😂
Ur husband sounds like a dick
It seems like he was wrong and he can’t take responsibility and because of the nature of OCD and the “hyper responsibility” that comes with it wants you to take responsibility because your “OCD” (in quotes because there could be more here) says it’s your fault. And it’s not.
It’s ok to be angry
My OCD is ruining my relationship. Well, not just my OCD. My fiancé/baby daddy is also an impatient know-it-all asshole. I cant stop obsessing over lots of different things (a lot of which include/affect him) and instead of understanding that I’m trying to fix myself, he just yells at me and puts me down. The other day he punched a hole in the wall and told me I was a bad girlfriend. I know I’m no ball of sunshine, but I still feel like I should be treated better.
My dad said I should never have been born yesterday. He also wanted to kill himself because of my OCD. I feel heartbroken.
Hello dear friends. I hadn't been on this app for a while, I've been getting by. Today I just need to vent and to feel validated and understood. I have OCD, I consider myself in permanent recovery. It is an everyday job. I am ina relationship with a wonderful guy. I deeply love and care about him, but he doesn't understand anything about OCD. I've explained it to him a million times. I've directed him to online resources. I've talked him through what to do to help me get out of a loop without giving me reassurance. And yet, he never knows what to say or do when an episode appears. It is tiring to pull myself out of the loop and then having yo explain to him what just happened to me, over and over again. I think, in general, he lacks empathy for other people's feelings, but, when it comes to me, I can see that he tries but achieves nothing. I think I don't have ROCD, I have diverse thoughts. But the last few weeks this thought got into my mind: what if he has met someone else and they are texting each other and flirting and he's gonna leave me? (He left his girl to start a new relationship with me). And he are apart due to the covid-19 epidemic, so we didn't see each other almost at all during last year. Of course, I had been able to keep this particular thought to myself, buy yesterday, it just came out of my mind after him not picking up the phone. He was in shock. He reacted defensively (which I completely understand), replied that he had nothing to explain to me as to why he couldn't answer the phone when I called him and that we was surprised that I asked him such a thing (if the reason why he didn't answer me was that he was talking to someone else). I knew it was just an OCD thought of mine, but I just couldn't keep it to myself any longer. Of course, I apologized to him and had to explain it had been an OCD thought. He was supporting and understanding and told me everything was ok and to forget about it. This morning I feel sad that he couldn't recognize this for what it was despite all the explaining I have done. I have dealt with my ocd on my own, despite being in a relationship. I just needed to vent and would like to read your thoughts about this whole thing. Thank you in advance for reading and replying.
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