OCD or something wrong with me?

How am I supposed to know if it's OCD or a problem I can fix? I'm having anxiety at times I feel like I should be most relaxed (example: while having a fun time with my bf) I feel really upset by this anxiety and can't find a root cause or any way to fix it. My relationship is everything I've ever wanted and I love my boyfriend very much. We both have the same goals in life and we share some unusual hobbies. I didn't believe in "soulmates," but I really think I've found mine. Idk if I have rocd, anxious/ avoidant attachment, or if there's a problem I can't recognize, but It's an obsession for sure. I plan to use nocd for therapy soon, but can anyone offer advice about this? I know a lot of people still here aren't in a good headspace, but I'd love to hear if anyone's gotten through this and how.

Username: FlyandteachFlyandteach

Date posted: 2y ago

Anxiety comes into my head anytime... regardless of how good of a scene I find myself in, it can creep up on me. I have found treatment very helpful. I guess the way to think about it is do nothing and nothing will change. Try treatment and it just might :)

Username: jgaljgal

Date posted: 2y ago

I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with this! In these situations, I’ve found it helps to let go of trying to figure out why I’m anxious, and just say to myself, “okay, im anxious. It is very uncomfortable, but I can handle it.” This isn’t easy to do, and it might help to do extra self care, eat well, drink water, and just try not to be critical of yourself while you do this. The benefit of thinking this way is that the “figuring out” process often causes much more anxiety, because it signals to your brain that there is an emergency going on that needs to be figured out. Dropping it sends the signal to your brain that you are safe and things are okay. I hope that helps a little bit! I think treatment will be really helpful for you—you can do it!

Username: Secret, collectively (she/her)Secret, coll...

Date posted: 2y ago

I could be wrong but… I don’t think it’s a binary. OCD or other, you can always choose to self soothe or to expose. It’s about which path is right for you. With my specific phobia, the trigger comes so rarely that I could probably just avoid it with little to no effect on my quality of life. With my religion-related anxiety, tryibg to play safe means giving up relationships and academic opportunities

Username: Secret, collectively (she/her)Secret, coll...

Date posted: 2y ago

Note: some specific phobias can be life-altering. Just the one I have specifically isn’t

Username: GrAYYGrAYY

Date posted: 2y ago

I just don't know if there's secretly a problem I need to deal with or if it's (another) false alert from ocd. I'm hoping it's the latter, but this uncertainty is making me confused whether to treat this anxiety like a real problem or an ocd "problem" 😮‍💨

Username: Secret, collectively (she/her)Secret, coll...

Date posted: 2y ago

@GrAYY may I ask what you mean by “a problem I secretly need to deal with”

Username: GrAYYGrAYY

Date posted: 2y ago

@Secret#2177 on Discord I'm scared there could secretly be a problem in my relationship that I can't identify. I can't identify any obvious reason to be anxious around my boyfriend, yet I sometimes get this feeling. I hope it's rocd or overthinking, because I just want it to go away. I don't want anything bad to happen to my relationship or my boyfriend.

Username: Secret, collectively (she/her)Secret, coll...

Date posted: 2y ago

@GrAYY It’s up to your best judgement ultimately, but maybe talk to a someone who can refer you to an OCD and/or relationship therapist

Username: amber.b2

Date posted: 2y ago

OCD?

I don’t know if what I have is OCD or just severe anxiety.. I’m really confused. Every time I do something that I feel bad about I will think about it for ages and it will ruin my day, and feel guilty. I keep getting emotional all the time and feel distressed , as if something is off but I can’t explain. Occasionally I have the urge to confess things and if I don’t they will be In my head making me not feel present. And I keep focusing on my partner and getting the urge to break up when I don’t actually want that (of course I have doubts like everyone does) but it’s more of a urgent upsetting feeling which hasnt left for 5 months, the only time it seems to go away temporarily is when I’m with him. and I’m soooo confused. My therapist told me I would have had OCD as a child so I can’t have it (I’m 20 years old but I don’t know what is going on with me). Starting to think I’m going insane as this has been going on for several months now!

Username: Anche

Date posted: 46w ago

Subtypes

Hi guys! I believe I have an OCD since I was around 12. I remember then I had a lot of intrusive thoughts about religious things and I had a counting compulsion (I thought that If I don't count to 8 in specific moments, someone gets hurt) During later years it was really changing - I stopped being religious, so the OCD theme also stopped. Then I had I reckon SOCD, harm OCD and many others. But for know my main topic is ROCD. But because of the fact that this is my main intrusive thoughts topic I start to have this awful thoughts that this is not OCD, I'm just with the wrong person and I need to accept this fact. This is really struggling for me, because i really love my bf and Im in the healthy realtionship but Im so tired of having this kind of thoughts, sometimes I cannot sleep because of them. Also the fact that I've never been diagnosed (I cannot go on theraphy right now unfortunately) is another trigger because I have thoughts that I dont really have OCD, I just making this up, because I cannot accept the truth. Is there someone with similar experiance? Or maybe someone who can have advice for me?

Username: caseydilla

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 46w ago

ROCD/SO-OCD combined

I have had bits of OCD and anxiety as long as I can remember but never in this way. I am in a 3+ year relationship with my now fiance. About 8-9 months ago I started heavily doubting our relationship.. doubting his love for and intentions with me and that we'd inevitably split up. That turned into me questioning my love for him. Questioning if my amount of sexual desire was "normal", if it's "normal" to find other men attractive if youre with the "right" one and that would go in and on. Then came the SO-OCD. These worries, fears, and doubts made me questioning EVER bit of my sexuality and that being the reason why I've felt a lack of contentment in my very healthy, stable, consistent relationship. I feel as though this is my body going full on protector mode!! I've had my share of trauma growing up and in adult relationships that have left me with tons of relational wounds and then pile on a lifetime of fantasizing about what it would be like to find "the one" (thanks Hollywood and social media lol). All of this to wonder if anyone can relate to all of this and how you've been working through layered traumas and OCD

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