Klynn2700
- Date posted
- 3y
Pure O & ROCD
Ok open to hearing anyones experiences with Pure O and ROCD/Relationship themes
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
i always get the same intrusive thoughts that i should be with someone else even though i don’t want anyone else and i just want to love my partner but it feels like i can’t because of stupid things some may say are “flaws” that i used to not give a damn about it is so so annoying. i think my least favorite theme is partner focused ones because i can handle relationship ones, but as soon as they are about him as a person i freak out
Klynn2700Klynn2700
- Date posted
- 3y
I’ve heard about relationship vs partner.. I can’t tell what mine is! i think it’s more relationship .. or myself? Is that an option? Lol .. I feel like I’m the damaged one and that I’m therefore ruining the relationship and such.. but I’m sure that must be so hard for you. You are so strong
JoyGarrk99JoyGarrk99
- Date posted
- 3y
My ROCD is very me focused and my relationship. There are times when I am not giving power or compulsions to the thought, that it will switch and I will have partner focused. But mine is doubting my own want and love for my relationship. I have a very healthy, supportive, same values and beliefs as my partner. He is my person and the one thing I can count on. Each time I have doubts or thoughts they are not backed by anything they are just random thoughts. So I guess that’s my experience of trying to get past the idea that this is what I really want and instead realizing that safe relationships are a threat to OCD and ocd will do whatever it takes to make you believe you need to run. They make your relationship feel as if it is wrong, unloving or a danger. I hope this helps. Also my main compulsions is mental checking and ruminating, these are two hard ones to stop.
Klynn2700Klynn2700
- Date posted
- 3y
i feel this 1000% .. it seems my OCC says to me.. “girl do you even have OCD? these thoughts seem pretty important to just be something to not pay attention to.. what if this isn’t OCD and there is something really wrong!” .. OCD and anxiety seem to really hate safe relationships and want to pick on every small thing to make it a problem
JoyGarrk99JoyGarrk99
- Date posted
- 3y
@Klynn2700 This happens to so many people with OCD. As we start to do ERP our brain gets threatened with something new, new is uncertain so it will do anything in its power to get you back to doubting. It’s is the doubting disease.
Klynn2700Klynn2700
- Date posted
- 3y
@JoyGarrk99 ERP is difficult sometimes for me. I find some weeks that ERP works well because OCD and compulsions have been quite clear.. but now that my therapy is every two weeks now, I feel like so much of my OCD is purely just thoughts and anxiety, with very sneaky/minimal compulsions. It’s hard to track them!
MaedayMaeday
- Date posted
- 3y
Mine is very partner focused. It doesn't help that I am insecurely attached so our dating relationship was very stressful. And I have tons of misinformation about our relationship to "back it up".
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